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Boy oh boy! To make a long story short, I hit my guy's truck bumper knocking a plastic thing off as I backed out of the driveway. I apologized and even offered to pay for any and all expenses. He doesn't care about that. All he screamed about was my driving ability and to park a certain way in the driveway. He then tells me he needs and wants a relationship where a woman will listen as well as hear what he says. He wants someone to 'listen' and obey is my take! I live with him rent free, without contributing to expenses due to my job situation. There has never been a complaint! He now tells me to 'not bite the hand that feeds you'. And tells me he 'won''t tolerate it any longer, either stop biting him or leave' Really? I've offered to help with bills and groceries, but he refuses! He needs to make up his mind so I don't "bite the hand feeds me" GRRRR
And its only going to get worse.
So youre still there... because why??
Ummm...ok????
The man is abusing you!
My exH and I were on a long drive once, and he insisted I drive part of the way in spite of me never having driven his BMW before and he knew I was afraid to. Right as we approached Vegas, and he'd fallen asleep even when he was supposed to be reading exit signs, I was looking for signs and ran over a piece of metal. He woke up and went completely ballistic. I was the stupidest person on the planet, I could not manage such a simple task as driving a car, I did not have eyes, a brain, or any common sense. I really thought he was maybe going to leave me in Las Vegas and go on without me. I stayed with him for about another 8 years, and that treatment only got worse and worse.
Nobody should deal with abuse however what he said vs what you translated it to could be two entirely different things....