Healthy Relationships Support Group

No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.

9,961 Members
13,641 Posts
1 Online
Relationships & Sexuality
/ Healthy Relationships Support Group

moving on

blueyedjax
blueyedjax

So I am in the process of a seperation and we are trying to still friends for our sons sake. It is weird though because I hate being single, it gets lonely. I met this guy and we hit it off but he doesn't do any of the text or calling. I am not used to dating again so I feel weird about it all. I am also scared because I don't want to go through exlaining things about me and wondering if they will be ok with things... I am so busy with work and school and my son I wonder if I will  even have time but I get lonely. All my friends are married and having more kids and that is what I want too. I just sometimes don't know what I feel about the situation. While I was married I lost a lot of my good friendships because I quit hanging out. I moved to a different county and now I am alone.


sunnyjax
sunnyjax
Me too blueyedjax! I wonder if we share the same name too.
I relocated to get away from my Husband, to a new City about two hours ago from my friends. I am starting again too. I am on my own though no children, they are older.
I see you already have a job, thats good.
I found joining groups helped me make friends. I know it seems like hard work but if you don't want to be lonely you have to make some effort. I looked on Facebook, you can search for groups on there. Also meet up.com is a good way to find out what is going on around where you are.
I havent ventured out yet, I am still at the point where I cry for no apparent reason which is a bit awkward!
Just take one day at a time, you don't need a guy to not be lonely. It is a cliche but you need to try and be your own best friend. Do any of your friends know of anyone in your new area, just someone to start you off?
I wish you well. Just hang in there. xxx
gebaird
gebaird
You're doing a very hard thing! Be patient with the process and allow yourself time to grieve and heal. Look at the opportunities each new day offers rather than focusing only on what you don't have. Learn new things, try new things, meet new people. Learn to be content with where and who you are. Try a new sport or hobby, read, go to new restaurants or make a new dish at home. Believe in yourself and trust that good things are ahead for you. There is life after marriage. While you are single be the best single person you know how to be. Learning to see the good in whatever circumstances you find yourself in is an important life skill. Be patient and hopeful. It will get better.
racinggirl
racinggirl
Im sorry that you are feeling lonely... We have all been there at some point. Don't worry about "having to explain yourself, and wondering if they will be ok with it" Don't worry about being yourself- thats the way it should be. If they don't appreciate you for who you are- and don't like things- move on to the next. I remember how it was when I was in your situation. But you just have to find the strength to carry on- and as gebaird said- Love yourself- thats the most important thing.
blueyedjax
blueyedjax
For sure, It's going to be a very busy next year and I know I am going to need a lot of support. It just sucks how everything happens at the worst time.