Yes, FB and POF ate good sources, just drive yourself and meet at public places, list yourself as living in a near by city not your own. Works for me, good luck!

Thanks Nanny9, I might try it. I wish it would just happen naturally, so I don't feel like a man shark! Oh well, thanks for your advice, how many have you met that you like and how do you find someone on facebook?? julie

I am in the same boat, but I don't have kids.....it is amazingly hard to meet single eligible men. ugh!!!

I keep seeing on here that people meet via Facebook. I just don't know how that happens? Yeah, its social networking, but do you just converse on a mutual friends wall and then decide to "friend" one another and take it from there? I honestly have no clue how this works.

I am a single mom, age 49, and busy as heck. I was married divorced for 6 months now. I am dating someone I've known for 10 years and we are having a great time. I realize now I cannot devote a lot of time to a relationship ... nor do I really want to at this time my child is my priority with her school work, activities, church and friends. I do meet people on FB but they are old friends from 20 30 or more years ago. The best way I found to meet people is to volunteer at a charity that you can put your heart and soul into. I volunteer for 3 or 4 different city organizations and always meet people. I am just dating one guy right now about once a month or less due to lack of time. I am devoting my free time mostly to my child right now.

I've joined eHarmony and Match.com - and have had much better results from eHarmony for some reason.

I find that the science behind these programs really narrows down your list of potential candidates. It sort of takes a lot of the guess work out of dating.. and starts you in a pretty good place. You get a few connections each day delivered to your email. It's very private and well controlled. Other dating websites are not as well managed, and it's like a free-for-all zoo.... you never know who is going to end up on your page. I prefer eHarmony.

I have two young girls as well, and so dating is difficult as it is. I don't have time to go getting deeply involved in a lot of different activities, hoping to meet my perfect single match. Sometimes the Internet is useful. :)

Good luck! I've just finished dating a guy from eHarmony for 8 months, and although he was a lovely guy, and we had so much in common, the distance relationship just didn't work. So now I'm looking closer to home.

Wow...I am surprised by the number of people who have difficulty meeting new people after a relationship ends or just in general! I am sorry it is so rough out there for all of you who are looking.

If I were to become single again these are some of the things I would do-find out if there is a group of adults that go on group walks or jogs in my city or even a neighboring city and join up, take a cooking class, start snow skiing again or maybe finally teach myself to snowboard, and join a gym. These things I would do because these are my interests and hobbies and I figure if I were to put myself out there around people that share my similar interests and hobbies I am much more likely to meet somebody I would have the right kinds of things in common with. I might also start frequenting a coffee shop for gays/lesbians but I know that doesn't apply to everybody. Anyhow, I am glad you aren't willing to go to a bar to meet somebody because it's just not a good idea to start anything meaningful with a barfly or and alcoholic. Good luck in your quest for companionship and if the FB idea appeals to you give it a whirl!

StrugglinOn - those are things I would do too, if I was not 100% responsible for my two little ones. :) Having little ones ,and a limited budget makes those activities quite difficult. Childcare to cover when you're out involving yourselve deep enough in activities to meet someone.... it's a big ask. But definitely if a person has the time, a little extra cash and inclination - get out there to meet new people. Fo sho.

I would say just start conversations with people you're attracted to wherever you see them. Only someone with a mental disorder will have a problem with that and you don't want to be with those people anyways.

Ha Oro only ppl w a mental disorder are the ones who have a problem talking to you? Usually I find they're the ones that DO talk to you, & attractive strangers are not interested.

PatternSkies no, only people who have a mental disorder think there's something wrong with striking up a conversation with a random person you're attracted to. Even if an attractive stranger is not interested, if they are right in the head, they will not get offended or threatened.

No I find that mental ppl just love to come up to you in the street & tell you all about their lives or some crazy story

Some of them yes, but others will be like "WHAT ARE YOU STARING AT?" if you glance in their direction.

Yes true. Very attractive ppl often are very aloof though.