Healthy Relationships Support Group
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My story to long to tell. Long story short. Wife and I are having issue. She says I let her down bcuz i' wasn't working.for a while. I said I been looking for work and even went to school to better myself. But it isn't good enough. We been financially struggling like most families in this recession. The toll have affected our relationship. We always arguing over money. She don't give me money and I have to beg for money(humilating). I finally found a job but the feeling of hurt is till there. She talk to me like I'm a stranger.Buying seperate groceries. She take care of my needs only. I don't know what to do. She is doing stuff knowing that I hate it. She give me no respect. I never been abusive or cheated on her. I bring flowers, cook and clean the house, and do the small stuff a man should do. She give me stuff when she feel like and don't get me an explaination. What time of woman game is she playing. I'm confuse and don't know what to do.
How long have you been married? Did you have a job awhile before not having one? Did she see you working hard to try to find one? Right now jobs are not out there.
Have you sat down with her and had a heart to heart talk?
i don't know you guys true history. but, usually if a women become this way, i'm sure she have validated reasons to feel this way. don't make it right however, all the bills falling on her isn't fair either. i think you all need to take some time out and really have a candid conversation about both of you all feelings. and place a fair plan or agreement with one another that you both will value and honor each other with the support and effort needed to make the relationship work as a team not an individual task......good luck
Sounds like you are anxious to move on and fix things with her. May be she's not ready to fix things yet and needs more time, I don'
t know, thats for you to determine and maybe give her some more time.
Helping her out around the house and bringing flowers, to make up for not being able to provide for her, shows how much you love her and appreciate her. She is very very lucky, and should appreciate that love and effort.
Have your heart to heart and if you both can't work things together to make both of you happy, instead of miserable and forget the past and financial stuff, then you might just deserve someone who appreciates you for you and not for how much your wallet holds.
Good luck and lots of love and hugs.
Otherwise, find someone who will appreciate you for you and not for your money, even if you are suppose to provide. Your trying and thats what counts. Good luck and hugs....