It is important to maintain and celebrate one's inviduality... personal power however, I'm not certain what you mean. I assume you're talking in terms of keeping ones place, finances, etc. separate from that of their spouse.

I'd say, if it works for you and your loved one, go for it. There really isn't a right or wrong way to have a relationship... if there isn't any abuse, neglect, etc. then no harm no foul... you do however, have to find someone who shares the same point of view, or else it's quite possible hurt feelings, ego bruisings etc. will be present.

For me, I find my partner reserves the right to my individuality and surrenders power where needed, as I with him. Give 'n receive ... who woulda thunk it?

Sounds nice. I guess I'm talking about the bedroom (sex). Glad you found your "give and take" ("I'm the bull tonight, you can be the Dominatrix tomorrow night").

This is an interesting topic. If you smoother a person they feel trapped. I sure want to maintain my personal power but yet yield when and where needed to make the relatioship work.

I have given up so much of myself in the past that I was what they wanted me to be. I am not doing that again. I loss something special, my spark and self esteem. It is taking some time to get it back.

A real man knows how to encourage a woman to be and feel whatever she wants to be, yet is there to comfort her and fill her during times when she's lonely. I want the same. Good luck!

I am who I am. I've changed before and won't change again. He knows that. And says he loves me BECAUSE he knows the "real me".