Over the past 6 months, I have developed a wonderful and platonic best friendship with a man. We dated very briefly at the beginning and both decided our chemistry was meant for friendship rather than romance. Since then we have made it over all the hurdles of seeing each other date other people and there has never really been an issue. We've even talked about moving to another city together. He has always said he worries about what will happen when I get into a serious relationship with another man because that's where my emotional investment would be, but I don't think that's the case. To me, the emotions of best friendship are very different from the emotions of a relationship, and I have no problem investing in both. In fact, I dated someone pretty seriously for about a month and that did not detract from our friendship.

However, now my friend has found "The One." He met her last week and they are already "in a relationship" on Facebook. He says she's the girl of his dreams and I'm very happy for him. But he's definitely pulled away. We talked yesterday and he said he's confused, because he doesn't know how to be there for both of us. I don't even know what that means, because I'm not asking him for anything other the casual banter we've always had and hanging out maybe once or twice a week. That doesn't seem like much to ask and I just don't get why that would have to change for him. It's not like the new woman is jealous of our friendship or asking him to back off from me. Is this just a natural part of a best friend starting to date someone else, and do I just need to give him some space? I'm terrified of losing him as he's one of the best things in my life, but I'm also angry that what I thought was a precious connection could be so easily dismissed by him.