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I don't really have a good relationship with anybody right now other than my boyfriend. Starting from the begining I guess....
I had the perfect life and family,
then I turned 12 and got interested in a guy older than me, we got really close.. Then on my 13th birthday I was told that my dad was having an affair... I used to do everything with my dad, I was such a tomboy. He was my idol.... well a few months later my parents caught me at the boys house at night.... That's when they started treating me differently.. but 10 minutes after they picked me up, they started fighting with each other and blaming each other.... Well my parents were on and off for about 2 years... In december my 16yr old sister announced she was pregnant, dad kicked us 3 girls out and we were homeless for a while, mom was always drinking, I held her while she cried herself to sleep.... my sister had her baby during that time... then we moved back in with dad and one night i found out that same guy was cheating on me, I ODed. My dad got mad and left, my mom held me and called poison control... Then when he got home, they fought AGAIN. We got kicked out of that house, now we're in our current one... I don't feel close to anybody here, I feel like I hate my whole family.
My dad betrayed me,
my sister has always hated me, she even tried killing me twice...
My mom let me down I guess is the best way to put it.
My best friend chose drugs over me, and the rest of my friends bailed on me...
the rest of my family can't stand me because I'm "different"...
And the one person I could always go to died unexpectedly... he was my grandpa.... He had cancer.... on the night he died mom asked me if I wanted to go see him in the hospital cause it could be his last night... I told her no... I didnt tell her why... but truthfully I wasn't ready to say goodbye... I was scared. and i thought maybe if I didnt go, then god couldnt take him... I feel like I let him down... He was always there for me...and in his last moments, I wasn't there for him..
My boyfriend is 1,400 miles away... I feel emotionally close to him, but not physically obviously....
I just don't feel like a really have any type of relationship with anyone....and it gets really really lonely... I don't know how to fix any of it.... any advice?
p.s
Sorry that was so long
I had the perfect life and family,
then I turned 12 and got interested in a guy older than me, we got really close.. Then on my 13th birthday I was told that my dad was having an affair... I used to do everything with my dad, I was such a tomboy. He was my idol.... well a few months later my parents caught me at the boys house at night.... That's when they started treating me differently.. but 10 minutes after they picked me up, they started fighting with each other and blaming each other.... Well my parents were on and off for about 2 years... In december my 16yr old sister announced she was pregnant, dad kicked us 3 girls out and we were homeless for a while, mom was always drinking, I held her while she cried herself to sleep.... my sister had her baby during that time... then we moved back in with dad and one night i found out that same guy was cheating on me, I ODed. My dad got mad and left, my mom held me and called poison control... Then when he got home, they fought AGAIN. We got kicked out of that house, now we're in our current one... I don't feel close to anybody here, I feel like I hate my whole family.
My dad betrayed me,
my sister has always hated me, she even tried killing me twice...
My mom let me down I guess is the best way to put it.
My best friend chose drugs over me, and the rest of my friends bailed on me...
the rest of my family can't stand me because I'm "different"...
And the one person I could always go to died unexpectedly... he was my grandpa.... He had cancer.... on the night he died mom asked me if I wanted to go see him in the hospital cause it could be his last night... I told her no... I didnt tell her why... but truthfully I wasn't ready to say goodbye... I was scared. and i thought maybe if I didnt go, then god couldnt take him... I feel like I let him down... He was always there for me...and in his last moments, I wasn't there for him..
My boyfriend is 1,400 miles away... I feel emotionally close to him, but not physically obviously....
I just don't feel like a really have any type of relationship with anyone....and it gets really really lonely... I don't know how to fix any of it.... any advice?
p.s
Sorry that was so long
Thankfully, my parents had a momentary lapse of sanity and decided to try to conceive a girl. God granted their wishes, and our first younger sister was born in November, 1976, the sweetest little thing. Tamed what could've been very difficult teenage years, where my brother and I very easily could've gone down a borderline criminal path. Then our parents determined that it was not good that their daughter should be an only child, so they tried again and conceived sister #2! Having two baby sisters has been great. They fought like cats and dogs at times, as did my brother and I, but are very sweet today.
Chin up! Your sister, for one, with the seasoning of time and the cooling off of hormones, may come around, and have some very serious apologizing to do later in life, may become your best friend!
Guys, regard them as recreation, and, since you've chosen to be sexually active, for God's sake, make sure they have a condom on every time you have sex! Last thing you need is to repeat this rollercoaster or unplanned parenthood! Sex only leads to more babies, so be sure you're in an emotional, physical and financial position to take care of them! Your parents, a wreck, are surely not equipped. And guys your age are just dogs, chasing their penises (I know I was, until about age 30).
Hope this helps-!
@Koolman, my dad bought me a camera, I love photography. But we live on a busy street and there's really nothing I'm interested in taking pictures of around here....Dad keeps promising to take me out to the desert or something, but it never does happen....
I'm definately not sexually active, I made one mistake while i was drunk, and i was raped another time.... but that was all.. my boyfriend is so far away so we obviously arent having sex lol I know I'm not ready to be a mother either..
I have a cat, he's like my son.....like.....he has his own room and i spoil the sh*t out of him lol, but i'm not ready for an actual kid.. since I miscarried it helps to have him around, he's like my baby.