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Lonely relationship

tdobb
tdobb
I'm in a relationship yet I'm so lonely. He is often gone and when he's here I'm ignored. Just want to be paid attention to and be loved.
Any advice?
calirn13
calirn13
Have you said anything to him? If so, what have you said and how was it received?
Aronia
Aronia
How do you feel about yourself separately from relationship?
koolman
koolman
Advice: Physically exercise, if you're not already. I like to ride a bicycle. I've found it brings me self-love, inner strength and peace. I enjoy myself so much I don't CARE if anyone else loves me, although, if someone does, as long as their love is not the suffocating kind and allows my soul to breathe, I'll allow their love in.

Also, the mind needs exercise too. I don't know what education level you're at, but continue to read. Also, if you're not working, get yourself a job, even part-time. It'll give you a sense of purpose and get you out there interacting with others in a positive, useful capacity. The money will then give you resources to shop, pay your own bills, whatever expenses you have. Best news, staying busy takes your mind off him, this relationship and the fact that you feel unloved. And your newfound independence might just make you more attractive to him. If it doesn't, oh well, you're having fun doing your own thing anyway.