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I have been seeing this girl for about 1 month. We met for the first time 3 weeks ago. Well since then I have told her I have school work and I have to find time to do stuff around my home to make sure its running right. Every time I tell her I have stuff to do she acts like that doesnt matter. We live about 35-40 minutes away from eachother and lately she has started asking to see me more and more shes even taking it upon herself to just show up at any given moment and I've never been the type to tell a girl that she is aggravating because im not that mean and I want to make her happy. Its just getting stressful because while trying to keep her happy its messing everything else up including school. So what do I do about this or how do I get her to realize that I have other things I need to while trying to maintain at least some happiness? I dont want to cut all ties with her but what do I do?
By the way I am 21 and she is 23.
By the way I am 21 and she is 23.
She sounds very pushy, needy and clingy which are not good traits. If she's like this now after only dating for a month when you're not even in a relationship, imagine what she'll be like if the two of you end up in a serious relationship. IMO, she's also very rude for just showing up on your doorstep at any given moment.
If you don't want to cut all ties with her, you're going to have to make your boundaries very clear to her and stick to them. If she just shows up at your door, tell her you're busy with school work or with your house, you don't have time for a visit and you'll call her when you can. The same with how often you are able to see her, let her know you have other things you need to get done and you can only see her X amount of times for now.
Good luck!
Heh if only it was that simple.... I don't know what to tell you man. Sounds very very clingy to me. Especially someone who you've only been seeing for 1 month.
Seems like she might be co dependant. And need you by her side everyday, most of the day. It all depends on her personality and yours.
Sounds like my problem though, just a bit different. We like our girl, but they have been doing quite a lot to annoy us. Yet... at the end of the day... is it better than just chilling by yourself?
I guess try to take it slow, speak up.. let her know, if she goes crazy mode on you.. I'd say run, but.. some people like that... so yeah, good luck.