Just thought that I solicite some feedback. I left my husband several months ago and I have been going back and forth in my mind as to whether I want to continue to work on this relationship. Now that the anger, frustration, and guilt is managable, I'm attempting to do the right thing. I've done a lot of soul searching since then and I realized that my husband is very needy and dependent, which explains why I've felt lonely, depleted and unloved for so many years. To further compound things, he is showing cognitive deficits from being in Iraq for over a year. Since being back state side, he has seen a couple of therapist (we also did marriage counceling), however, according to him he has not found the right one. Further, I've noticed that he continues to cling to me for comfort. As long as I accommodate him, he does nothing to help himself. He has been back for almost a year and has not made any progress nor do I see any sense of urgency in dealing with our marital problems or getting help for the problems stemming from being in Iraq. I'm told him that unless he diligently seeks help then I don't want him around me anymore. I feel bad about this, but I'm choosing to cut the proverbial apron strings. I find his behaviour burdensom. He seems to want me to continue to meet his needs as well as my own, which is the very reason that made me leave him in the first place. I told him that I would support him in whatever treatment he choses, but I refuse to play therapist which is what he wants me to do. Am I wrong for wanting him to grow up and deal with his own emotional issues?