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jacksonone93 01/14/2015

I been married for about 1 and a half. in 2014 I moved my wife and step- daughter to another state. From that point on my wife and not done anything as a wife. There is no intimacy, no communication. He really don't talk at all. I tried to talk to her but I get one word answer and " leave me alone" vibe. I get accuse of cheating as if I have time to cheat working two jobs. I pretty much pay all the bills to keep the peace. I feel if I needed anything financial or do sometime of help. She wouldn't help. If I try to bring up a problem. She shut down or do something stupid like go to a hotel for a day or two without texting or communicating. I'm simply miserable being a home and want to leave cuz I'm trying to go to counseling but she refuse or make up some excuse. I'm not saying I'm perfect cuz I have ADD but I'm trying so hard and I feel like she want out and only staying till the lease is up . but I have tried and tried to make this worth due to my religious background of preserving a marriage. She had history of bad relationship and the baby father cheating on her. So she is quick to bring the tone as it is not going to work because " all men are alike" which I getting kinda sick of hearing that. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT SHOULD I DO?

zoidberg 01/14/2015

Sounds like she has given up on your marriage and so now you have to decide if you want to be in a marriage that isn't working and is making you both miserable. In my opinion I think it's time to end it and move on. Peace

Aronia 01/15/2015

People do not change overnight, especially after only a year and a half . How long have you known this woman before you married?
I understand that your faith dictates dedication and obedience , but no one should have to put up with emotional abuse and no child should be forced to grow up in such venomous living conditions. No God in the world would approve this.
However , there are always two sides to the story. When your wife complains about your marriage problems, are you really listening ?
Hope you will be able to work this out and good luck .m

Lenoire 01/15/2015

There seems to be some information missing here. Are there perhaps some issues that have arisen in your marriage, in the past, that have been ignored, and perhaps not mentioned in your post? As Aronia said, people generally don't change overnight.

koolman 01/15/2015

I'm no marriage counselor, but sounds like she got what she wanted, a ring on the finger and some financial security, and now she's coasting on her meal ticket, you.

I don't want to tell you what to do. You two are gonna have to have an honest talk even if she doesn't want to.

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