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Is it me or...

koolman
koolman
...do relationships just plain suck? It seems there are so many compatibility issues that are so complex that it's a wonder any two people get along at all!

Just wondering...
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you already have a mindset of pessimism, then chances are you won't ever find the "perfect" person for you.

When your partner has a flaw...feel humbled that you are not the only imperfect one.

Enter a relationship with an open mind and see how it goes.
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes life sucks at least for me and I think life is a trade off, just settle :) atleast you wont be alone
CarlaBent
CarlaBent
Now, now!!! You'll never meet your goal with THAT attitude!!!!
This is just a sucky time of year for you, and with good reason!!!
Hang in there!!! It's not that relationships suck (not all of them, anyway!), it's just that they aren't all that easy!!!! (Well, maybe some of them are, but that's pretty rare too, I would think!)
But no matter how much work it takes, a really good relationship is worth every bit of whatever it takes!!!
The first step towards success, however, is to at least believe it to be a possibility!!!!
Sure you can't open your heart and mind up at least a little bit to the idea!!!?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I believe a relationship can be a blessing if you practice acceptance and love the person just the way they are
deleted_user
deleted_user
Those are called relationshits... lol
koolman
koolman
Thanks, folks. I guess I got pessimistic from reading all the rants here, all the lies, deceit, mistrust, abuse, heartbreak and bullshit. I suppose I'm just depressed this time of year. I'm trying to keep an open mind and heart here...
deleted_user
deleted_user
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I enjoy relationships. The longer they last the better.

The current one is unbelievable, I love her so.

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deleted_user
deleted_user
Even when you find that perfect one, there's going to be issues. It's part of loving. You always hafta take the good with the bad. Yes, sometimes a relationship even at it's best can make you wanna strangle your partner, but that doesn't mean that it's wrong, just normal. If there weren't arguments in every relationship, how would we really know about our own selves. I can tell ya now, I'm a selfish, bratty little woman who's also scared to death of falling into a black hole like I did in my last marriage. Unfortunately, sometimes when things go wrong, we just think it's not meant to be and wanna quit. Sometimes, yes, that's the best answer, and then other times, we just need to put that extra foot forward. (I just wrote this to myself in my journal in my bedroom. It really helped me clear my head, so hopefully it'll help you too.)

::BIG HUGS::