Healthy Relationships Support Group

No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.

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keepitsimple247j 07/27/2011

Right now I am having a very hard time. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He is so great to me. But I am in love with someone else.. I need some advice..

Shai 07/27/2011

...you don't love your boyfriend?

keepitsimple247j 07/27/2011

I love him, but I really feel my love for him only goes so far. It is more of a best friend love.

deleted_user 07/27/2011

How to end the current 'best friend' connection and then follow your heart? Just do it ~ with respect, honor and kindness. Let this man you don't really love go, grieve and heal to find someone who truly loves him.

Good luck to all three of you ~

deleted_user 07/27/2011

I agree with MsTeri. You need to let your b/f go so he can find someone he can have an in-love relationship with.

Shai 07/27/2011

yes. i agree with the other two. let him (your bf) go.

deleted_user 07/27/2011

I agree as well. It's not fair to him for you not have that "in love" passion with him. Just tell him and yes it will hurt him but he needs to find someone who cares about him as much as he does for you. I have had relationships that felt like a "friend" or "brother" type and while they are great to you that isn't enough. It won't work for you to be friends with him as he will always keep wanting more or think things may change and keep up his hopes for you. Be strong and move on.
You are young yet and still have a lot of time to grow and as you are more mature and get older you realize your perception of things change.

deleted_user 07/27/2011

Oh and yes it's not fair to him to "hold on" to him just to have him as a safety net if that is what is happening.

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