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I want to but i don't want to

Ten10
Ten10

When me and my girlfriend started dating she heavily relied on me until she went into a hospital got on meds and now she would lights on her meds instead of me I don't know if I want to break up with her or not what should I do I feel that I might be overreacting I need help

refurb
refurb
you stick around for a bit, let her stand on her own, better that you help her be whole than you be what she needs
helping her get whole is love
wanting her to be needy is sick
rmb
rmb
How old are you guys?
Jillsaundars
Jillsaundars
Codependency???
Ten10
Ten10
We both are codependent but not do much anymore
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
You could join an al-anon type of group that can help you with the co dependency and that can help you to work towards a healthy and happy relationship in the future.... big hug.....xo
mangymoosemaine
mangymoosemaine
I agree with SunCloud. Sounds like you have some work to do. A relationship shouldn't be based on one partner being dependent on the other. You should both be independent individuals who choose to love and grow together because you care deeply for one another, and you make each other's lives richer.

Do you think you can work on your codependent issues as a couple? Is she willing to do so? Or, perhaps you will need to step away from her as a girlfriend in order to heal these emotional problems. None of us can answer such personal questions for you.

Good luck :)
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