Whats bothering you ?

I am filling out the final papers for my divorce. My ex and the children are hurt. I am the one that wanted the divorce. So, I feel selfish.
I am sad that they are hurting.
I have never lived on my own before this past June.
Being single is very confusing.

You are taking very big stepps right now and its no wonder you feel scared and confused.

I was terified when i went through my divorce. I learned though that the kids are much better off without there mother and father fighting all the time. I am much happier without her in my life all the time screaming at me and verbally and emotionally abusing me. I would ask you to take a hard look why you left and use that to re-assure yourself that you will be better off.

It will be hard at first. until you get your feet under you again and are able to move on with a new life. You will get through it and be better off for it.

I am always here if you want to talk too. :)

BIG HUGS for you!

I have been doing well. I am happy that I moved out. I can't stand to hurt my children. Our relationship is a little different.

I want to go home and rest by myself. However, a guy I just stared seeing just went through a very difficult time a couple of days ago. He doesn't want to be by himself. So, he will come visit. I am stretching myself thin.

Honey we are here for you ok we care and love you.

I'm sorry to hear that shelle. Your heart and soul really does need to rest in order to stay sane and be able to breath after such an emotional and confusing time. The emotions will settle, the confusion will find answers in due time. Just stay strong and find ways to stabilize yourself in order to make the most of this settling down time. Give yourself a chance and ask the person you're seeing to understand. He will. Everyone wants the best for you, your children and your ex-husband. No matter the details, no matter the reason for hurt taking care of yourself and time are the answers. Clarity, forgiveness and rebuilding come in due time.

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong :)

Thank you everyone. I am actively working on have a healthy balance/ healthy life for my new beginning.

(((HUG)))

You don't have to go be there for anybody else. If you need to be selfish and take time for yourself, then do it.

By wearing yourself then, you're going to cause more problems than anything else. If nothing else, stop for ice cream on your way home. Pull over and look at something pretty or interesting while you eat it.

I am going to take time for myself today. I will communicate that to him.
Thank you Lost soul for helping me out here. Thank you for your support.

Glad i could help :)

((((( hug ))))), shellie!

Sending hugs your way, I read some of your other posts, I don't think trying to be happy and move on is selfish, everyone deserves to be happy.

I feel like I need a hug today too its been one of those lonely feeling days. Hugs to all of you : (