Hello Georgia. Welcome to DS.

Emphasis on what other people think sends me into tailspins every time. You hit one of the most important points in my own 39 year marriage in your first sentence. "I don't trust anyone to truly say how I feel." This is especially true when I don't know how I feel, myself. Keep your assumptions and power of suggestion to yourself, please. Nobody else can work my relationship for me and what other people think is not real relevant in my private affairs.

It takes two healthy, well-developed individuals to create solid relationship. When I find myself questioning my relationship with my spouse, I shift the focus to my own issues and personal development. DS is a big site with lots of emotional support available for that task. I hope you'll take the time to surf around and see what might resonate for you.

Welcome aboard.

I think your gut is trying to tell you something. I wouldn’t ignore that. If you felt at peace and content in your relationship you wouldn’t be this conflicted. It’s ok. I know some people who marry their high school sweethearts and live happily ever after but for many people, their first love only lasts a while. I can’t imagine my 20 year old self feeling the same way as my 16 year old self.

What other people think about your relationship, or what they think if you break up is really not relevant. What is relevant is how you feel, what makes you happy and what you need for yourself right now. Moving across the country with him and his mom? You guys are adults. Having his mom so closely involved seems strange to me but that’s me. At your age, me and my peers couldn’t get away from our parents fast enough. I just feel like if things go south after you move, they will have each other and you will be on the outside. I’m sure his family is great but when push comes to shove, it’s his family.

Now to sound like an old person giving advice: if you are lucky, life is long. The stuff that I went through with relationships and love in my early 20s are sweet memories. That’s it. There is so much to experience and do and learn. Always listen to your instincts. Always.

Young love is awesome and fun, I would talk with him and let him know how you feel and what you are thinking.
Go into a conversation with an open mind.
Be able to let him go to live a happy successful life if that is what you need.
You will either grow together or grow apart, no one can tell you what is going to happen.
You want your relationship to be strong and healthy keep it open and honest, Be willing to talk about the things that are uncomfortable. Such as you feeling like you need to live in the world. Everyone goes through that feeling some survive others don't.

Welcome Georgia to DS...… I agree with what others have said.... Not too many people spend their life with someone that they meet at 16.... Maybe he is the one however maybe he isn't

No one but you knows how you feel sweetie … Just because he's a good guy doesn't mean he's the guy you want to be with forever

It sounds like you're having doubts and it's okay to have doubts....It's even okay to decide you want something or someone else in your life

I would just try and be honest about what you're feeling for both of your sakes otherwise you'll probably resent 'him' in the long run

Big hug of support while you work through it......xo

I think it is normal to be tempted if your needs are not being met in the relationship. You say your boyfriend is great, but perhaps this plan to move so far away doesn’t serve you and your personal and career goals. Are you in college pursuing a degree? Does this move serve you in any way, other than the need to please your boyfriend? Just some questions to ponder on your own.

Thank you all for your kind words of encouragement. I needed this. I haven’t made a decision, however it’s put a lot into consideration. Thank you again

If your relationship is great, then what you are missing out on out there is cheating, lying, being stood up, amazing sex with sociopaths, jealousy, confusing relationships and sleepless nights.

However, if it is passion you are missing in your relationship, it is just not going to work and you will always wonder.

Have you ever spent any time apart? Like weeks at a time without contact?

Maybe this would be the best way to tell if he is the one.
I can tell you this - I had lots of different men and relationships, and my life would have been much different if I married my first boyfriend. However, I loved him. I couldn’t see myself with anyone else.
The problem is - someone you are in love with doesn’t always love you back and doesn’t always treat you well.
It is a gamble.

I say - spend a month a part and see how you feel about him not being a part of your daily routine.
If he loves you, he will understand.

When you have only been with this one person since you were 16, I can understand the temptation,, especially when you are 20 and you have not taken other opportunities to date, If you are having these doubts, I think it would be a mistake to go forward with the move with him and his mom. My best friend's neice did this. She moved with her boyfriend and his mother to a couple of states away. She left school to be with him. They ended up having three children together, and then it fell apart, and there she was states away from any kind of support system with three kids. I have seen a number of friends marry their high school sweetheart, the only one they really dated -- and I have to be honest with you: I have seen them end up in affairs with men after they have been married to that high school sweetheart, because after you've been married for a year and a half or two, the oxytocin high you get from your first love subsides, and then they begin to wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. And they give into the temptation. And I have seen marriage after marriage after marriage end in divorce, and leave the children absolutely devastated.. An affair followed by a divorce is a thousand times worse than breaking up with a boyfriend, especially when children are involved. I think you should have a talk with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Discuss with him your doubts, your fears, your temptations. It is so much better to do this now than to move thousands of miles and have your life fall apart with no support system. If it is meant to be, you can make it work, even if he lives a thousand miles away. My boyfriend and I had a two year long distance relationship (over 1000 miles apart) and we made it work. At the end of the two years he asked me to marry him and I moved a thousand miles to marry him and start a life together. I definitely would not uproot your life and move thousands of miles with him, unless you two were actually married. Uprooting your entire life is traumatic and stressful, You do not say anything about what you are doing, whether you are in school or if you have plans to go to college or if you are out in the workforce, but I really encourage you that if you are in school, do not give it up to move with him. Get your education first. My best friend's neice is now in her late thirties and she has struggled supporting her three children, because she thought he was more important than education. Now in her 30's she's had a really hard time getting jobs that can support her and her three kids. When she left school to move states away with him and his mom, she never dreamed they would not work out. I say this to say, if you are pursuing school right now, don't give it up to live with him thousands of miles away. Make sure you get your education before joining him, so you have something to fall back on if it does not work out. I really encourage you to get a book by Chip Ingram: Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships. It really revolutionized the way I think about relationships.