Hi Kirrdy, As challenging as it is, and wanting to help, he has made it clear what he wants and the best thing to do is to respect that - his boundaries about what he wants. I know it's not an easy thing to do, especially given the urge to want to help. He has been through a tough ordeal and needs time to deal with it. Maybe put yourself in a situation where you would want the same or have needed some space to deal with something, and it might be a little easier to understand. I would try and be patient and understanding about what he has made clear that he wants, and just let him know that you're there if he needs anything.

All the best.

Hi Kirrdy,
I agree with rose3, respect his wishes and maybe after he has had time he will contact you.

Update: He still hasn't messaged me. I'm just wondering if it's acceptable to check in on him or if I should continue to wait a few more days. -Thank you

If he's this sick he may not be up to any social interaction right now.... . I don't think there's anything wrong with calling.... I would maybe start the conversation with 'are you up to talking for a few minutes?"..... Gentle hug ... You must be worried......xo

If you respect his wishes, you'll develop trust with him. You'll both grow in a healthy way. Your relationship will be the better for it in the long run.

What happened to him?
He may be in shock right now. I think people handle things differently.. some want their partners around, some don't.

I know he doesn't want me around right now. he's out of the hospital now, he's not sick he just is having some health problems. I just know if I call him he won't pick up and might text me saying he still needs space. I had really good news today and all I wanted to do was to tell him and I texted him but nothing.

I feel for you being shut out like he is doing. I to am curious as to what happened in order to comprehend why he would be acting this way. But it seems by not responding to your last txt he has made it clear. Would it help at all to speak t his parents again to get their take on it? Maybe that is crossing a line, idk. If he is going to some sort of rehab, then perhaps he will reach out to you on his return. But perhaps not since he has completely shut you out now. If this is fairly new relationship it would be easier to comprehend, and I could see a possible reunion after he goes through the therapy he needs. However if this is a long term(a year or more), I would do some soul searching about the relationship. Good luck.

There is such thing called PICS. Post Intensive Care Syndrome. Hope he feels better soon

He is out of the ICU and is at home. I can't go into detail, but he had an allergic reaction. On Thursday I had a bit of a breakdown and possibly blew up his phone with texts and calls saying I was fed up. The next morning (Friday) he texting me with devastating family news. I felt awful for just thinking he was completely ghosting me. I texted him again in the afternoon and said we needed to talk and then said things were over. He replied, and I immediately regretted it. He promised me everything was okay and he would call me tomorrow (Saturday) I'm currently making a list of things to talk about that bothered me last week and also talking about how I recognize I was also in the wrong. It is only a few weeks in we are still getting used to being a couple rather than what we were before. I'm just trying to figure out what is good for me as well as him. We will see how the conversation goes tomorrow.

Thank you guys