Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
Is that weird that I am 20 years and don't want a relationship right now? I don't know. I just haven't been feeling like getting into one recently. I have been single for almost 2 years. And for a while after I got out, I wanted to be in another one so bad. Not that, I was desperate, but I just missed the feeling of being with someone and having that connection. But the past month or two, I don't even care about finding a girl anymore. I'm just happy being with my friends or with my family. I think one reason I don't really care is because a lot of the girls I know or see over here are really immature. All they care about is partying and getting drunk. Me? I am not like that anymore and I don't find that attractive in girls anymore. I like girls that are mature, smart, care about their education, and actually have conversations instead of being boring or gossiping. I don't know or see any girls like that over here. The girls here are attractive....I'll admit that, but that's really all they have is their looks. They don't have the brains or a good attitude. And even when the girls here like me, I am tempted, but I say no usually because they seem really immature and I'd rather not get into another immature relationship. Been there a lot....not doing it again. I don't know....is it weird I just don't care about a relationship right now? Because I really don't. At least not as long as I live in this town.
Yes, you don't need that negativity, drama and bullshit. Yes, it's tough to find the sweeties, true "diamonds in the rough", who care about something more than themselves.
There are a lot of sweeties here in this group, some of whom are much older than 20, who will hopefully give you hope, for being sweet with a sweetie, which you deserve, as we all do.
Are you in college? If so, aim for women who are training in the healthcare/nursing field! In addition to the money they will earn as healthcare providers, which is certainly a strong motivator for getting into the healthcare field, they're generally very caring people, who want to help their patients.
Educators are great people too! Avoid the "club" scene like the plague.
Meanwhile, it's perfectly OK to just enjoy your family and friends, if those relationships are healthier and make you feel more relaxed and happy!
I think you're becoming a mature, strong man. You are going to get exactly the kind of girl you deserve , because you are not with someone just to use them or because this is what everyone is doing or because you are settling. It is so rare.
Good job, young man.
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