I have to agree with your parents take on this. You haven't been well and they are no doubt anxious for you to have stability in your life right now in order for you to get well again. It sounds like this guy has a number of issues in his life, and your parents probably feel that it isn't in your best interests to be in a relationship with him right now.

How about concentrating on getting well, then seeing how you feel?

I also agree with your parents.
It is like having a divorce and then going back to that same person.
Most of these relationships don't work out in the long run.
Take care of you first! Then the right relationship will come your way.
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Thanks ladies. I am still back and fourth with it and i do know to some degree he is not right for me since we both have issues. Letting go is hard for me though.

I would concentrate on yourself right now. Until you are able to work through your own deamons, taking on someone else's might be too much to handle and drag you down.

I know it's hard, but try to be thankful and happy to know that someone cares about you. You can be friends with him as you both work on your own things, then if things head towards a relationship path in the future, it will be better timing.

I'd say it's a tough situation for both of you. You have things to work on to be healthy and so does he. Seems like he has quite a bit on his plate, would he be able to handle a relationship and the stresses that brings? Your parents want to keep you safe, and this guy has some pretty big issues to over come/work with. I would say that it isn't a good idea for either one of you to be in a relationship right now- life can be very hard (as I am sure you know) dealing with your own things then adding a whole lot from someone else- would like be too much to handle. The fact that he assaulted a family member and it ended up with charges being laid, says a whole lot, it could be very dangerous for you.

I with the the women on This one. He got a hx of being phycially assultive to family members. The issue is his biopolar disorder. It would be one thing if the meds just are not working when he decompensates or if he decompensates because he stops taking hisa meds. If his problem is because he stops taking meds you need to run for the hills because you will be setting yourself up for pain, disappointment and drama.

Thank you everybody. This has helped alot hearing others opimnions outside my family. I do worry about his anger and i am pretty sure he takes his meds everyday so it is not a med problem but a bipolar problem. I do not want the drama bc i have enough I am dealing with.

Listen to yourself and know that you said you don't need the extra drama in your life and you would be adding to that. Focus on taking care of you rather than finding a "distraction" by taking care of someone else right now. You need to find someone who is well when you are feeling better about you.