Yes, i know exactly what you are talking about.
However, in my case he actually did " fall in love" with me after a while, as much as a sociopath can love someone.

I am so sorry that you are feeling so bad.

Can you go and talk to someone?
A therapist? a good friend?

Abusing your own body is not worth this man.

I'm so sorry you are feeling this pain. I know it well and wouldn't wish it on anyone! You mentioned the word "trauma" and I think it is important to recognize that sudden and confusing heartbreak is Traumatic. You're allowed to feel whatever you're feeling but, please, don't damage yourself! Like OTM mentioned, talking with someone empathetic can be of great help (be it a friend, councilor, clergy, what have you). Writing has been helpful to me in the past. I find that when I try to explain something I am forced to understand it more deeply and that is always of benefit.

Peace, love and light to you in this difficult time.

Some grieving is healthy but, don't unpack there, it's no place to stay.

Hi, Im going through the same things, ive been reading self help blogs, and I realize a lot of men do this to women, make them feel special and loved, and next thing you know theyre dumping them for ridiculous reasons, I wish they stopped. It really hurts, I mean, WTF? why cant you be honest? ... and im currently reading this book called "Its called a breakup because its broken" and trust me...this is like GOLD to me right now, you should read it, even the first 30 pages made me feel GREAT today :) just bought it on ebook in Amazon for like $8. I couldnt wait any longer. This is not a paid advertisement at all hahaha

Amazon didnt write the book, its written by a man and a woman and Im saying this because Ive been reading a lot on how men break up, and its almost the same, they suddenly change and completely ignre the woman and then BAM! Dumped!
Listen to this quote of the book
Anyone who asesses you or your relationship as disposable is not worthy of your time or tears...
Im just a begginer at this, and Im learning :)

Omg Cats are a lot more annoying than a sociopath lol!!
At least a sociopath doesnt barf in your bed or wake you up at 4 am because he wants dinner and you dont find his hair all over your new black coat.

Aronia, haha cats can be alright, I guess, I just can't get over the Box * so gross!

This issue has nothing to do with gender.

I am very concerned over the overattachment in such a short amount of time. Investing three months of your life into a person doesnt justify feeling traumatized and incapable of moving forward. Not after three months.
You need some help from a professional who can work you through figuring out why you put so much stock into a person you barely knew. I have to wonder if your feelings are not solely caused by this one man ending the relationship with you.

Yes, I think most women who've gone through co-dependency and low self-esteem have had an experience with a true psychopath/narcissist. Those sicko users have an instinct for finding a woman who is desperate for love, then playing mind games with her until she has a breakdown.

Mine was met way back in 1977 when I was a young person. Now I'm a senior, and this man periodically still stalks me, tries to get into my head again. I despise him and all he stands for--immaturity, irresponsibility, narcissism, dishonesty, perversion. But his EGO can't accept that this thing was OVER decades ago!

"We are never, ever, ever, ever getting back together!"

I'm cracking up because it's blatantly obvious that you're having to settle for the "lesser" type of pu$$y...... Oh c'mon, you've got to admit that you walked right into that one!

They are the worst of the worst. Right next to the pathological liars. Yes I dated one creep who was a liar to the full extent. Even lied about his parents dying in a car accident and having had cancer. I think I might have experienced PTSD after dating him. I also think that even after all these years I am left to look down upon men due to the bs that fucker put me through. I cant take men seriously anymore. Its just so common nowadays to bump into these types.

The love (or hormones) that burn twice as bright last twice as long! And you two burned so very, very brightly in 3 months...

I don't know the guy, so I can't debate one way or the other whether he was a "narcissist". Sounds like you were BOTH codependent. And now, without him there, because you're codependent, well, your identity, your core being is removed.

I'd say begin to physically exercise to build yourself back up. Bicycling and working out have built me back up through many a shit time in my life. They keep me strong when times are good too.

You are not alone! I have had TWO relationships like the one you describe and they were both REALLY tortuous!

There's a great website about this pattern you describe:
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/

Hope it helps!

I'm dating a narcissist right now! One day he's all about me, the next he's gone.... I don't hear from him at all during the day and when I call him out on pretending like I don't exist he says he needs to work on "leaving a legacy at work". He is 26 and makes MINIMAL money! This is not someone who who has any basis for being arrogant. He constantly tells me what I need to improve on, doesn't take any responsibility for not making an effort when I do eveyrthing for him... feels as though he can have me when he wants me, and worst of all, does not break up with me when I say "If you feel as though you can't be with me, please do me the respect and tell me that". In short he is a big PUSSY with a blown up view of himself. I am too dumb to leave because I have been in love with him since I was 16, and we just started dating two years ago. I can't get the thought that it was meant to be and planned for us. You need to let go of your memory of this person. It's paralyzing and I can tell you from someone whose still actively in it, it's not worth it. It's a living hell.

Narcissism is a buzz-word these days and I feel it's crucial to handle it with utmost care in its true/deep/toxic meaning. Besides, overt narcissists often attract covert ones or other people with severe own personality issues who would never see themselves as narcs or "part of the problem", though. I am saying this with all empathy as an affected person myself.

But I see it this way: Only children can be true victims. We - as adults - have our share in these unhealthy and toxic dynamics. Even if our flying on (subconscious) autopilot lets us overlook it often...

I know what you describe, Heyvee, alas I know it too well. And it is not about length of time being with someone like that, it is about what is retraumatized. Because women or men who make themselves dependent on malignant narcissists act out a pattern that roots back in childhood most of the time. So people who say: Aah, only three months... No, mostly a life time has to be thrown into consideration here. Three week can throw you back there if you do not know enough about your past's meaning for your present.

It took me all my life up to this year to fully realize that I am an adult child of narcissistic parents. My eyes were slowly opened by my last "relationship" four years ago. He is a covert narc (like my father). His mother who played a major destructive role in our "relationship" was like my mother a full blown malignant narcissist. Gosh, I was going through hell twice. First when finding myself there and second after breaking up.

That combination flashed me back into my childhood's traumas and heavy PTSD. It was the worst trigger for me. Four years ago I left him after he had kept abusing me subtly - covert n's do it in secret and passive-aggressively which makes them so dangerous in my eyes.

Before that I had toxic relationships with narcissists/psychopaths yet never was it like that. Today I am aware that I was ready to learn the truth about my past. And this malignant mother-son-couple came as my teachers to give me the ultimate wake-up call. I have done a lot of work on myself from 28 years of age on for I knew something was "wrong" "with" "me". Yet I had no clue what the problem really was. Had to become 50 to realize :'( Sometimes it amazes me that I am still here on this planet.

Covert N gave me a name for all I had gone through and suffered from without having a darn clue.

I warmly recommend the latest book by Susan Forward: "Mothers who can't love". She writes about toxic mothers (different types from narcisissitic to overly enmeshing). The website theinvisiblescar.wordpress.com is also worth visiting in my eyes for those who want to learn more about toxic childhood.

Only the truth can heal. And behind toxic relationships that produce in series there is always something that needs to be faced: about our selves, not the man (woman) that triggered our pain... They may have their issues yet we can only heal our own.