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Anyone read Robin Norwood's book - Women who love too much?
I was shocked to find out how I have all this issues why my relationships never worked out, how I attract the wrong kind of guys. Sadly where I live there are no support groups. :(
The thing is I do want to heal and I do want a relationship where I am appreciated and loved, but it's hard.
I've tried relationships with guys who were good but after a while I felt smothered and suffocated and bored by them. Meaning everything was easy and good ...and I kept looking for that excitement that a bad relationships gives you..that thing when you keep trying to make things better, to make HIM see that you know the "right way" for the relationship to work. I've spend way too much of my time and energy on these wrong relationships.
I am taking the 10 steps from the book. If there is anyone doing them, or knows a group where they talk from the book, please contact me :)
Anyway... there's this cute, so far...normal guy I've been out with 2 times... I've met him through a double date I had with my friends...and we were always out the 4 of us...me and my girlfriend and the guys. I just have these contradictory feelings now...because I do want to heal, not to choose bad relationships all over, but I am also curious about him., But I am always thinking my every move what to do or how to act to not mess it up or even worse..to see if the guy is not messed up, or has all those negative traits that my exes had. Because I don't want to start all over again.
Anyone read Robin Norwood's book - Women who love too much?
I was shocked to find out how I have all this issues why my relationships never worked out, how I attract the wrong kind of guys. Sadly where I live there are no support groups. :(
The thing is I do want to heal and I do want a relationship where I am appreciated and loved, but it's hard.
I've tried relationships with guys who were good but after a while I felt smothered and suffocated and bored by them. Meaning everything was easy and good ...and I kept looking for that excitement that a bad relationships gives you..that thing when you keep trying to make things better, to make HIM see that you know the "right way" for the relationship to work. I've spend way too much of my time and energy on these wrong relationships.
I am taking the 10 steps from the book. If there is anyone doing them, or knows a group where they talk from the book, please contact me :)
Anyway... there's this cute, so far...normal guy I've been out with 2 times... I've met him through a double date I had with my friends...and we were always out the 4 of us...me and my girlfriend and the guys. I just have these contradictory feelings now...because I do want to heal, not to choose bad relationships all over, but I am also curious about him., But I am always thinking my every move what to do or how to act to not mess it up or even worse..to see if the guy is not messed up, or has all those negative traits that my exes had. Because I don't want to start all over again.
I have issues myself so I may read that book.
I have always picked the wrong guys (I say my man picker is broken).
I think it is really great that you are working on yourself.
Maybe with this new guy just be friends first, while you are working on you.
I will be interested to see what others say to this topic so I will be checking back.
As an older woman I value simple kindness and probably would not be bored or unappreciative if a nice, sweet guy comes along.
It really is a great thing that you are aware of these things about yourself and are trying to work on them. Some people are not very self-aware, so first be proud of yourself for your awareness. Second, since you're feeling apprehensive about this new guy and fearing that you/he will fall into the same patterns of your past, I have to agree with onetoomany...being friends first definitely seems like the better option. Feel each other out. See how YOU feel about things as time progresses. If you feel comfortable with yourself and your progress, then you can make the decision to move forward.