Not sure I believe that whole half as long as you've been with them. My relationship ended on the 24th it hurt bad the first few days then felt just kinda minor pain. I decided to jump right back in put ad on a site up met a real nice gentleman(along with a lot of not so nice ones)and met him today. That's when it got bad for me. I really thought I was OK but the whole time I was with him I compared him to the ex. He was not as aggressive, he was shy, not as tall. hands were small. The list goes on. When he left I now feel just as freaking bad as the first day the relationship ended and cant stop crying. Taking great will power not to try and call the ex. Wondering now who's he with, did he think of me at all. Just basic stupid crap like that. I'm guessing I was just numb before and it caught up with me. On top of all that a really sweet guy likes me and I feel bad because I am thinking the right thing to do is just to tell him that it looks like I am still hurting over the ex and giving him a chance would be hard right now. Not really use to this. Of the men I loved my husband passed and the pain was different. No confusion, no questions, Second one was 2 years but it had been over for awhile with all the fighting. Hurt but I knew the why and all that of it ending. This one was different. Just wondering for those that loved someone and it ended how long did it truly take you to stop hurting?