Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
How do you get a i guy to care? Care about housework, care about my feelings, care about the kids, care about yardwork, care about our relationship? I love him, but i want to feel loved and cared about. I want him to want to do things with me or for me without asking.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
how long have you been in this relationship? has he always been this way? what was his family like growing up? how was the relationship between his parents?
when have these issues come up (relating to "has he always been this way?")/when did the issues start? what was happening around that time, for him, for you? are you a stay-at-home mom? what was your childhood like? how was the relationship between your parents?
have you voiced your feelings? what was his reaction? if negative, could it have been that he had a rough day prior to your conversation? money issues? overwhelmed?
keep your head up. (a bit off topic...but is there any way to "mark" this post so i know to come back to it if someone comments??)
I think people make a mistake when they just assume their partners should know what they want. It's not wrong to tell your partner what you need. Communicate your needs, but do so without sounding like you are nagging, hounding, complaining. I'm not saying that you do that, but after a while, he may perceive it that way.
If he just sounds like he doesn't give a crap about what you want or need, that's an issue. Unfortunately you can't make someone care if they don't. That's when you have to examine why you are with someone who seems completely uninterested in you or his family.
Why don't you feel cared for?.....xo