Could be the most beautiful, sweet, charming and sexy woman in the world, by the way; doesn't matter--sometimes my heart's just not there. And, yes, I do like girls (I'm not gay).

maybe its just not the one. If it were the one your heart would be there.

Yeah, thanks. The emotional tone is not right. I think I need to be with someone who can be "calmly excited" if that makes any sense. Enjoy deep conversations but still be sexually excited by each other. The women who show any interest are party animals who can't sit still.

Koolman, thanks for being honest about this. No wonder us women cant understand men, hell, you all dont understand yourselves. LOL

Emotions are funny. That why you cant always go with emotions you have to use your brain and way your options. Don't get me wrong, I am an emotional junkie I love the feeling of being excited about someone and feeling in love but I also have to look at whether what we might have is real or just feelings.

And what is "real"? Some logical construct that we both feel comfortable in and agree upon?

sometimes you just need time by yourself, it isn't a bad thing. I came from a relationship where I felt smothered. I always had to figure out what we were going to do and make all the plans, had no time for myself and friends were a real no-no. Now I am in a relationship, were yes, sometimes he wants his space, sometimes I want mine, but we always enjoy each other's company.