Sounds like me when I was involved with someone who didnt return my "feelings". I would get all hott and flustered over him and then I would realize he wasnt returning it and I would get "cold". Then he would say or do something to get my attention back and hence several months of this shit. Never again. My goal is if someone makes me feel this way ever again -- they are history from the first time it happens. Not going down that path again.
So I think this is your brain telling you that she is not good enough for you and you are recognizing it, now to tell the other parts of your body. :)

Well we all deserve some one who gives as well as takes. Maybe you get tired of giving without receiving and burn out. I'm that way with friends. I give and give and get zip in return. I have a few friends on here that refused my gifts. They don't take, but they are also not very giving with emotions.

Man thy name is inconsistency well maybe it is I may think differently tomorrow?

scrambled and tobi: I think you two are onto something there. I AM burnt out (exhausted in fact), don't really want to work that hard just to cozy up to someone warm at night. This shit is getting old (as am I thanks to this shit). But I'm lonely, and want to be sweet with someone who feels sweet with me.

Might have found someone...stay tuned...

as with all things... slow and steady win the race

at the end of the day, you want peace

a little advice from the bible, and i'm paraphrasing of course

"it is better to eat little with a loving woman, than to feast with a contentious one"

"it is better to live on the door steps with a quiet woman, than in a palace with an angry woman"

my point is that in the long run (i don't know if you're in it for the long term though), peace and quiet joy is more important than sparks and passion

Yes, I want to be in it for the long-term. A "slow burn" typically works well for me. When I hear about people enjoying wild sex, I feel like I'm missing out on something, but clearly that stuff does a quick, hot burn and then fizzles out, with no afterburner, so maybe a slow burn that is lukewarm is indeed more my style...thanks.

You've identified her as an attention hog so something within you sees her as she really is. Perhaps she wouldn't be so "captivating" once you stopped all the attention and you're just not admitting that to yourself?

I'm a believer in taking things slowly. Things only get screwed up when we act in haste & forego our better judgement. But...
if this is the only persona you truly take away after you've spent time with her, than yes, perhaps another more balanced person is better suited to you. Any good relationship has to have balance and if you're not sensing balance *now* I doubt it'll appear later on. I mean, ppl tend to put their "good face" out there when they start dating, right? This only begs the question: what does her "other" face look like???
IYKWIM? =/

Her other face is probably not pretty and downright mean. Thanks for the great advice.