I think you said it quite well in your post that have just written and that is what you should consider telling him. Everyone has their own thoughts and feelings about how much space they need and I feel the important thing would be if you both can sit down and talk about these thoughts and feelings and see if there are more things you can come up with that could make you both happy and comfortable in your relationship.

Perhaps having a day out of the week where you both do something together that you both enjoy would be something to consider. I also think since he is just settling in it will take a bit of time for him to pursue some hobbies of his own and hang with new friends from time to time would also help. And it may take some tme for him to feel at home even though you all have been in a long distance relationship for a couple of years. Finding that balance is always a bit tough but not impossible.

Just remember communication and productive action from both of you is the key to making things work out. After all you can't keep feeling guilty for wanting your own space and he can't continue to question if he is bothering you or not as this won't help make either one of you feel comfortable living together. Anyway it won't be easy and there will be times both of you will feel hurt or guilty by your actions but to me that is all part of being in a relationship as well as learning more on how to communicate, compromise and getting a good understanding about each other as well as your own wants and needs.

Time will tell in the future if this relationship is right for the both of you. Remember being together should be adding to your lives not subtracting things from it. Wishing you both the very best and hoping that you can work everything out:)

I m not dismissing your concerns and it is normal and appropriate to have space, but...until someone you love really ignores you for a while, you will never really appreciate how wonderful it is when you fiance loves you and misses you so much while you are gone, that he wants to spend all of his time with you .
You are one lucky girl. Give him a break lol

Coming from a mas perspective, what you are doing could put him off a little now, and a lot later. Just let him know that for a few hours that you will be in the sunny room, and for him to chill downstairs. Tell him, you love him, but also you want a bit of you time every day. Also let him know that you are still adjusting to him being there, he will understand, as long as you tell him the right way. I hope that helps.

I agree with Aronia. Appreciate what you have. Most people would treasure a man who wants to spend time with you. I think you have so many frustrations with this man being in your home that you have to ask yourself if you are ready to live with someone. You like things the way you like them but so does he. He may love spending alot of time with you and you feel it's too clingy. We all have different needs and it seems like he will started getting a bit frustrated if he feels he isn't doing anything right in your home. I would start letting him know what you appreciate about him rather than focusing on the things he is doing wrong. You could say "honey" I love your attention but right now I'm needing to have some quiet time myself and how about after you are done with work we do something like a walk". That way you are putting it in a loving way rather than harboring all this resentment without even telling him your needs. If it were me I would start to feel like I wasn't welcomed in the home. And you have to decide do you want to marry this man based on all the things you are getting frustrated with.

And you had a 2 year long distance relationship prior to all of this. You didn't see eachother everyday. This is a huge adjustment. Give you both some slack.

So I decided to just give it some time and let him get settled in. Hopefully then he will feel at home and have more of a set schedule so work can be work and we can have time to spend together.

I think a lot of me needing space was when things were over the phone I could shut off worry and distract myself when I see him I have a hard time doing that. He is starting a new business and we are planning a wedding so there has been a lot of stress and anxiety this past month. But things are getting better so 90% of the worry is gone and he has more time to do things like walks.