Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
So the website I found was a bomb. I have only had two relationships in my life one that lasted a year and my marriage that lasted 22 years. During that 22 years I was emotionally and verbally abused. I really loved my husband and put up with so much! So I finally left, and since then had the 1 year relationship in which I found a man that seemed to be one thing but was really another. I keep thinking if I just look for certain qualities instead of listening to my heart, I will do better in my future relationship. I have been through counseling, because I had a crappy childhood, who hasn't right? I just want to have a good relationship with a man I love. Okay now I am feeling sorry for myself, blah! I hope this makes sense anyway, lol. Julie
Anyway... I found this on the internet today.. I thought it was interesting
http://access.ewu.edu/caps/selfhelp/stressmanage/distortthink.xml
There are books and groups about being Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional families, that can be very helpful. We get a better idea of how we are relating in unhealthy ways that we thought were normal, and how to replace those unhealthy patterns of relating with better ones.
one that I've used is "12 Steps a Way Out'; some others are the books by Janet Woititz, who also has a website if you want to google on her name.
We might find the best partner inthe whole world, but if we don't know how to handle conflict, or balance our needs, then we don't know what to do with that best partner.
True story LSU!