who comes to a health support site to blab on about how happy they are? the happy ones are out there in the sunshine having their happy relationships. Not stuck indoors whinging about it like us.

Should this support group be titled Unhealthy Relationships then?

I dont think so...then wouldn't the Healthy Sex group be called 'Unhealthy Sex'?

Quite possibly.

lol Pattern skies.

The way you describe why you're here is a hoot.

Half of the time I learn and grow by going back and reading my own advice to someone else!

I"ll find myself wanting to control things, wanting others to behave the way I want them to behave and think.. " didn't I give some advice to one of the peeps on this very topic?

I also don't think there are people who are always blissfully happy in their relationships. All people are flawed and have their ups and downs.

Idk.. I complain about my SO sometimes, but generally I feel happy and content 80% of the time.

I agree, this site should be called Unhealthy Relationships, because the people who come here are in or are in between relationships that are anything but healthy.

It IS fascinating to talk about and listen about unhealthy relationships to figure out what the problems are in the hopes of finding solutions (!).

Like Aronia said, some people who come here are generally in healthy relationships, are just going through a rough patch and need a little advice out of the rough patch in an otherwise generally healthy relationship.

And some people who might not be in relationships at all just like to come here, perhaps out of sheer boredom and loneliness, to listen to others' woes and perhaps offer advice if they feel qualified based on past experience.

lol I came in support group as goal to figure out how to have healthy relationship... I want healthy, stable relationship. However, I did just recently break up with my ex, and realized I didn't handle break up very well. Many issues have come up that I didn't realize until recent that I had to deal with. I'm here, though, to try to get to my goal... be stable, healthy person and find stable, healthy person to be with.

My ex and I parted company 5.5 years ago, in that time she has had three partners, whilst I have had none. Who is the more secure type, she or me, and is being secure a healthy thing?

She tells our children I won't be happy until I find a replacement for her, does this mean my happiness is someone else's responsibility, and is her happiness someone else's responsibility as well?

In all of my past failed relationships I settled for anything but the best, and paid the price accordingly. 80% happiness is 20% less than ideal in my opinion, and for one to settle for it is for one who settles for incomplete happiness.

I have given up looking for my ideal partner, I do hope though that she hasn't done the same thing.