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i have been with the same man for 14 years and we have 3 kids together. he has never been able to hold a steady job so he stays home with the kids while i work. Our relationship has been rocky to say the least mainly because of the way he talks to me and about me. i never do anything right, i am dumb, stupid, whack, a bitch. He has to have final say in every decision no matter how minor, like how i fix my daughters hair or what we are having for dinner. It has always pissed me off and we always fight about it but now its to the point where i don't care if i ever see him again. but he wont leave. i told him i don't want him there anymore (we live in a house that is in my name only) he says he will leave when he wants to. i have called the police in he past to have him removed but he stalks me at work at home calls me all hours of the day and also that was before the kids and i really don't want to do that in front of them. i just want him to leave. I'm so done with him I am ready to pack up my shit and leave even though its my home just to get away from him. he says he is taking all the furniture with him when he leaves because he bought it with his student loan money and that is fine by me take it all JUST LEAVE!!!!!!!!
he will not leave he takes pleasure in making me miserable. his family lives nearby and i have called them for help in the past to come get him before i called the cops to do it but all they do is come over and tell me i need to calm down and work it things out for the kids and i just want to scream and runaway i feel so alone and like no one cares how i feel. oh and apparently its not about my feelings anymore i lost the right to what i wanted and how i feel when i had kids. I am supposed to suck it up and deal with it for the sake of my kids.
he will not leave he takes pleasure in making me miserable. his family lives nearby and i have called them for help in the past to come get him before i called the cops to do it but all they do is come over and tell me i need to calm down and work it things out for the kids and i just want to scream and runaway i feel so alone and like no one cares how i feel. oh and apparently its not about my feelings anymore i lost the right to what i wanted and how i feel when i had kids. I am supposed to suck it up and deal with it for the sake of my kids.
I wish you all the best luck and i hope you can have this problem solved and get some peace, good luck dear
I hope things get better for you soon!
Are you a member of this group here: physical and emotional abuse?
I agree you should contact your local domestic violence hotline. He is abusing you emotionally and mentally and that is Domestic violence. Id suggest you get a restraining order once he is out and continues to stalk you. Your local dv advocates should be able to help you get new furniture. Keep a record of all the times./ dates you have had to call police to get him out and what the cops told you , if u go for a restraining order you will need that info.
As far as getting him out, the laws vary state to state. Here in AZ even if he is not on my lease the fact that he used this as his residence gives him rights .. probably the same in your town. What you can do is do some reading on google, and then call your local court house and ask them what papers you need to file for self service eviction. he probably has 30 days by law to vacate the property. but im not positive. ,my son and his roomate had to kick out another room mate and they had it done through the court in 3 days. call the court and ask them, theyll tell you how and what u need to do to file.
good luck :)