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I have the opportunity for some free counselling for the stress I've been going though.
I thought that it would be a good idea to share this counselling with my ex (we just split about a week ago), in an attempt to give things one last try.
We share a 20 month old child together, and we've been through a lot together. My thinking is that if we try one more time, with the help of counselling, at least we can say we did everything we could.
It was him trying to reconcile the relationship the last time we were together. Also, when I asked him a couple of weeks ago why he wanted to be in the relationship again, he said we were meant to be together.
However, his response today, when I offered to share my free counselling sessions with him, was that he'd have to think about it.
He wanted the sessions but not to be in the relationship while doing it. And I don't want to invest anymore of myself, just in the hopes that we might get back together after I've given all my counselling sessions away. I want to work through things while in the relationship.
I think that the fact that he has to even think about whether or not he wants to be in the relationship again, while doing the counselling, is my answer - which is no. And I told him this. It's only been a week that we've been apart.
What do you guys think? I really need some input on this. Thank you.
I thought that it would be a good idea to share this counselling with my ex (we just split about a week ago), in an attempt to give things one last try.
We share a 20 month old child together, and we've been through a lot together. My thinking is that if we try one more time, with the help of counselling, at least we can say we did everything we could.
It was him trying to reconcile the relationship the last time we were together. Also, when I asked him a couple of weeks ago why he wanted to be in the relationship again, he said we were meant to be together.
However, his response today, when I offered to share my free counselling sessions with him, was that he'd have to think about it.
He wanted the sessions but not to be in the relationship while doing it. And I don't want to invest anymore of myself, just in the hopes that we might get back together after I've given all my counselling sessions away. I want to work through things while in the relationship.
I think that the fact that he has to even think about whether or not he wants to be in the relationship again, while doing the counselling, is my answer - which is no. And I told him this. It's only been a week that we've been apart.
What do you guys think? I really need some input on this. Thank you.
How long have your been together and what attracted you to him. Is he a good father and even if you don't stay together will he be part of your child's life?
He has been very helpful when he's been here, but the sacrifice of parenting has been with me - a single mom even while in the relationship. He does pay child support and more than he has to.
He loves our daughter but it's more the showy kind vs being in there for the hard stuff and the daily grind.
If we aren't together he'll have visits with our daughter as usual, but supervised.
He was a very kind hearted and generous person when I met him. And he was very reliable and I could count on him in a lot of ways. Those are some of the things that attracted me to him.
Re: my having a head start in counselling ... I've had a head start for over two years now, on and off (during stressful periods) as a result of my frustrations with this relationship.
Maybe if you guys try and go together from that angle, you will find that you truly are meant to be together.
We're very functional parents - can carry on fine functionally regarding our relationship on behalf of our daughter pretty good.
I just can't bring myself to sacrifice more of my needs and give my sessions to someone who can't commit to working on the relationship. I already feel like I've sacrificed so much.