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Have I created a monster?

foreverstudent
foreverstudent
Long story short, I love my girlfriend very very much and I hate saying no to her. So I don't. However I feel like I have started on a path that I cannot get off of. If we aren't doing what she wants to do we fight but it's my fault. Like I've said she is use to me always saying yes, she is very good to me and I love being with her but how can I slowly but surely let her know that sometime I'm not happy without starting a stupid meaningless fight?
mysteryman73
mysteryman73
A relationship should be 50 50 if it isn't then you will not be happy and she will not respect you, so I would talk to her and tell her how you feel.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yep I agree with mysteryman talk to her and let her know your feelings. It will take some time on both your parts to getting use to the changes of 50/50 but if you both love and respect each other it is not impossible. Be honest with her but most important always be honest with yourself. Best wishes to you:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Did you grow up with sibling rivalry maybe you should call them and fight with them instead? Or get competitive with a college buddy in jogging or debate sounds like you have something missing in your life that you are trying to fill in the gap with stupid fights.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's never good to neglect your needs/wants all the time -- even in leisure activities.

Are you nervous when you considering offering a suggestion you assume she won't like? Try being more confident and laid back about it. She may be reacting to your tension.