I think you are right. I think there are some people who need to shake things up. I think there are others that like the routine. I like both to be honest. Keep it exciting but also comfortable. I like the long term relationship plan but I want the passion too.

My best friend loves routine. His exwife was looking for a reason to leave because she was bored. Today, my friend is remarried and very happy. His ex is in a different relationship every month. They both seem to be happy.

So, my question back to you is this. How would you shake things up and still stay with the same person?

Well, I'll try not to shake things up with my anger, which, from reading these boards, is what a lot of us do!

Exercise together, work on different muscle groups each time, concentrate on cardio one day and bodybuiding the next. Go different places. See each other in different outfits. Travel.

Hmmmm, what happened to changing the sex routine :P. I'm just asking?????

by the way, I like both routine and change. Routine gives me the grounding I enjoy, but the excitement and growth that come from change, make the new routine more interesting.

Changing the sex routine: Well, within the boundaries of not doing each other physical harm, how do two people "shake it up", once we've done it all, and it all becomes routine! How do you shake it up and try new things? Do you take a leave of absence for awhile, forget all the crazy stuff, and then, when you get back together, it's fresh again-? Is it best not to raise the bar too high in the beginning, because it sets up this precedent that is impossible to maintain? Or is it best to just let the passion run wild, knowing that it's not going to last, and worry about it all fizzling out later?

I prefer routine in my everyday life. I can deal with change when I have to because lets face it from time to time we have to but its difficult for me. When it comes my sex life I try to never let that become routine because well thats not routine and shouldn't ever be :)

I get bored with routine. My day to day life is sooooo routine. I get up at the same time every morning, go through the same steps all day. But on the weekends, I like to shake it up when possible and try new things. There's not much I can do about the work week.

Routine can be a good thing. However, boredom can set in. The trick is to have open, honest communication in your relationship. Talk to your partner about what you'd like to do to "shake things up". If you are bored with the routine, don't nit pick at your partner, express your feelings and let them know WHY you are feeling that way.

In order to do this, you have to be aware of your feelings so you can share them. Sabotaging a good relationship simply because you are bored is selfish and seeking diversion outside of the relationship in order to get excitement back is even more selfish and very damaging to both you and your partner.

Just was having this talk with my friend on Tuesday...... From a woman's perspective..... I have been married twice, both of them have come back realizing that the routine is what is missed the most. (Grass not always greener on the other side baby love) The just having that person you could count on day to day, laying beside you every night feeling. I know things can get boring, us women can get there to. But when push comes to shove, most people seem to realize that the day to day wasn't all that bad.