I would make it clear to the children that they may not like your new BF, but that they better be respectful to him and you regardless.

Without knowing why your daughter has such dislike for your b/f it is a bit difficult to give you advice on what your next moves should be.

In saying that I do not know what types of things you and your daughter have discussed as far as why she does not like him or if she is still having trouble with the divorce and has not fully accepted that idea in her mind. If possible I think you and your daughter have to really sit down and communicate each other's feelings with each and that includes how you are feeling guilty about even having any contact or phone conversations with your bf.

Let her know how her behavior makes you feel but at the same time listen to why she is feeling the way she is. Perhaps if you do this you both can start to set up some boundaries on what is acceptable and what is not. You are the parent and do have the right to date and be treated with respect. Your daughter needs to have legit reasons about her complaints and maybe even a bit of family counseling might help with this.

My point is that both of you are feeling miserable and you both need to find ways to solve these issues without getting angry or feeling guilty. If you can't fix things between yourselves again I would advise you both talk to a counselor. I hope this helps you a bit and things start to get better. Wishing you the very best.

Thank you both so much for your replies. I guess communication is the key and I need to come forward and say my peace. I feel so much better after reading your suggestions. Thank you.

It's one thing is she didn't like him because he wasn't nice to her or you. But it's another if it's just because she doesn't want to see you with anyone else other than your dad. Tell her how you know it may be hard for her to see and you want what's best for you and so does your guy. Reassure you understand but you also care of this man and want to be able to be around him and not have to hide. In time she will be ok, but it's all in how you approach it with your communication with her. Best to you.

A few typos. Reassure her and that you care for this man. You understand what I am trying to say.

Ah, there's always someone who doesn't "approve", isn't there?

Sorry, but this would make me angry.

I'd just put it out there. Love him even harder. Be openly affectionate with this man, if you feel like it, even in front of your daughter. Let the love win your daughter over. If it doesn't, it's her problem, not yours. And you're the parent, are putting a roof over her head. Your house, your rules.

Tell her you won't be judgmental about HER boyfriend, whoever that may be, and expect the same courtesy in return. Tell her that you love her, and want a harmonious household. If your daughter wants to talk with her own biological daddy, if he wants to talk with her, the phone is in the next room.

You guys are awesome! I don't know why I hesitate to tell her exactly how I feel, except that I am afraid of conflict. She is a lot like her dad, and she has said the reason she doesn't like him is that he is "off", something doesn't feel right about him. Well, he has bent over backwards to try and make her feel welcome, but I think she just doesn't want to share me. She did go to a movie with all of us last night, I was so happy! She just said she didn't like his house. I think she is feeling how much I like him and is afraid things are going to change. I really want to talk to her about this, but I am intimidated, crazy huh? j

It's human nature. You don't want to feel like you disappointed your daughter again after you and her dad didn't work out. You want to please her. Realize that this doesn't have to be "confrontation" and what is confrontation really. Just conversation. You reassure her and over time she will see how happy you are. She is perhaps afraid that someone will hurt you or that they will leave again and is putting walls up. Little by little they will come down. Just have the conversation. That is the only way to break down barriers. She will appreciate that. :) Saying nothing is like hoping the obvious will just "go away". Best to you both!