I've told him his Flirty ways bother me a million times but it's like he can't help himself. A friend told me maybe it's because alot of the men we are friends with find me attractive and charming. Idk about all that, but maybe that's why he does it. Anyone else have this problem?

I think there is an innocent flirtatiousness and then there's the people who are always going to be screwing around when they get the chance

I have someone close to me who has finally broken up with (he broke up) a guy who screwed around on her every chance that he got and he would always flirt with others outrageously in front of her as well

It was really disrespectful.....

I'm not sure where your boyfriend would be.... What do you think??..... xo

Is there always alcohol involved when he’s over the top flirty?

I’m more of a flirt than my husband but I don’t really know I’m doing it. I call it chatting and being playful. It’s never sexual flirting, ever. It’s more banter and just a lot of eye contact and if I’m honest, body language. But I do it with everyone, men, women, old people, young people. My husband and I were on this micro brewery tour once and this old couple were in line with us. I love old people. The husband was chatty and interesting and I just took to him. At the end of the tour, the wife, all 150 years of her, pulled my husband aside and told him to get me under control, haha!

If I meet someone fascinating, all I want to do is engage them and my husband one time made an issue of it, said it bothered him because I’ll completely shut him out of the conversation. That killed me. I had no idea I was doing that. I’ve not done it since. You may need to have the conversation with him when you are both in a good place, when you aren’t emotional about it. I agree with you it seems rather over the top. If it’s usually when alcohol is involved, that’s a tough one because that just makes everyone that much more uninhibited.

Has he ever cheated on you and has he been in long relationships before ?

I think a little flirtation in front of you might be ok, but if they're flirting at the bar and taking smoke breaks together, this isn't ok. It's just too much. Like he wants you to know he could get another. Like he wants you to feel inferior. Since you've already talked to him and his behavior hasn't changed, the next time you go to the bar, sit at a table and away from this particular bartender. If he just can't keep his eyes off her, you might be dealing with something more substantial than flirting. Usually our gut is right about these things. Do you see a long term future with him, kids?

Thanks everyone for your input! Yes, alcohol is a factor. He was married for 18 years and he and everyone says he never cheated on her. No I truly don't think he's cheated on me. We live in a small town and someone WOULD tell me. And I feel it in my heart. He is very attractive, big, strong, well known farmer, with alot of friends and a successful farmer, we are "bikers, so there are alot of "Flirty? Women?" I'll leave it at that. But yes, I will take the advice of walking away from the situation. That has worked before and he has immediately come sit with me. Riding season is coming so wish me luck. He bess be a good boy. Thanks everyone. Appreciate you! ❤

Also we grew up together and we have all the same friends.

Is the bartender married?
I would pull them aside.. both of them! Tell them if they want to date then date already! Because occasionally flirting is one thing.. but constantly doing this and ignoring your feelings is another!