I am sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time in your relationship...
From my experience, when relationship is bad, it wasn't really fine from the beginning. There were signs from the very start, but sometimes we don't see them until things develop further.
One major indicator that the relationship is toxic is when people who you trust - family and friends - all tell you that you need to break it off. These people are usually right.
In all relarionships there are two parties to blame for the way it goes down and two parties to commend for the success.
Without knowing details it is hard to say what's happening . My question would be : when did the name calling start and do you also engage in name calling ?
Also what is the core subjects which cause your arguments ?

The name calling started last summer, there are times I do say mean stuff back to him. But, I haven't in a long time because it hurts me when he does it to me, so I decided I wouldn't do it back. None of my family and friends have told me to break it off, they all love him. We started dating my sophomore year in high school. We've both changed in so many ways, but lately some of the changes have been more negative than anything. (Name calling, ignoring when fighting) There's one thing he told me that I will never forget. He told me that no one could ever put up with me like he does and they might be happy in the beginning but eventually they'd leave me. I'm very aware this is abuse. I just don't understand how he could say that to me. I've been so lost for a while on what to do. The only thing good out of our relationship problems is that I've grown closer to God.

Abuse is never any good and I'm so sorry you've been hurt...... I think when people are in the dating mode even though there can be some conflicts that have to be worked out it's the honeymoon stage and it's as good as it gets
No relationship is always good however I think some things are deal breakers.... If you are both very involved in your church I would at least think of perhaps having some relationship counselling.... This type of behaviour of lashing out in order to cause pain can really snowball if it isn't stopped
Ignoring you etc is passive/aggressive and childish
I wouldn't move forward without some help and change..... Big hug and a blessing.....xo

...why was he upset that you went to the beach on spring break?

Is it possible that he is using drugs?

Thank you all so much. I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 19. He's mad about the beach because "it's going to be packed" he told me he thinks I booked this vacation with my best friend to intentionally make him mad. My boyfriend doesn't even smoke weed, so there's no way he's doing drugs. I'm graduating from college next year and the plan is to get our own house. We currently live together. After all the fighting, ignoring, and name calling I told my boyfriend I didn't want to have sex until our relationship got better. That made him mad. Every thing makes him mad. He's always mad. I try talking to him about his anger and it always ends up in him leaving, or being ignored until he's ready to talk about it. And when I say talk about it I mean, he drops the conversation about us fighting and we never get closure from fights. I try to communicate with him, but it's impossible when I'm the only one trying.

So you can imagine how awful it would be if children ever came into the mix....It would be terrible for them.... I would nip this in the bud.... Go for some appropriate help like some sort of therapy or counselling or end it..... You're both very young and he's very childish
If you both plugged into it this may be able to be turned around..... Big hug......x

I guess my biggest question is what do I do now to get my relationship back on track? Especially when he isn't willing to communicate over our issues. Is it silly or just games to cut out sex until I feel like our relationship is getting better? What can I do specifically to help communicate better?

I really appreciate all that's been said. I honestly didn't know if online groups would work or not. It helped my mom in the process of grieving over her boyfriend that passed away last April. I know my relationship issues do not amount to that loss, but I needed to do something. I want to get into therapy for myself. I would try counseling with my boyfriend, but he's already told me numerous times he's "never going to have someone give advice on a relationship they're not in" - like I said he is SO HARD to communicate with.

If he isn't plugged into it there isn't much you can do sweetie.... You can change you..... He has to want to change and if he doesn't I would do what you have to in order to take care of yourself.... Being unhappy and staying attached to someone who treats you poorly is no good .... Big hug

how long have you been living together ? Maybe you need to take a break and spend less time together ?

We've been living together for almost a year

so sorry for you i will say a pray for you

Reading some of your responses I say a lot of what he dose and says is to control. Control is the major effect of all abuse and his actions will get worse until you comply with his demands. Even if you comply he will come up with new demands and keep pushing you to your breaking point. My suggestion is to start looking for a way out. Maybe get some therapy for yourself! Your last post makes me think you may have some underlying codependency issues as you keep giving to him and I sense fear of losing him in your writing. SunCloud is absolutely right and I also tell everyone that too about children. So many adults pass their screwed up behavior onto their children by teaching them how to make a dysfunctional relationship get by instead of teaching them how to have a healthy relationship.

Please some help and post here as much as you want. This is a safe place. There is also a codep support group and may others you might want to check out.

Big Hugs