I wish you the best! I liked reading your words. You ended a relationship because you value yourself enough to realize your life should be more. I've done that too...but I think the pain was just as hard to work through than if I wasn't the one who ended it. But one day at a time...it'll get better...

Thank you!

Good Luck to you!

It sounds like you have your head on straight and that you are taking care of you!

I'm on this journey myself at 44. Glad you are starting earlier than me! What are some strategies you are using to keep your focus?

Well I'm just at the point where I know I need to love myself and connect with myself and be at peace with the life I'm living even if it is in state of sadness and confusion right now. I've asked my husband to separate, it's been a good year or more since I really started thinking about it. I'm trying not to dwell on that though and live in the now.
I'm really just looking for ways to be happy even though I will be "alone". Which is funny because I've felt alone for a long time in my relationship and marriage. I am focusing right now on the positives in my life. Great friends, loving family, my 1 year old nephew who's just started walking, a good job that pays pretty good and a roof over my head. I've started there.
My friend has used a pie analogy with me. She divides her life into pie sections. Job, family, health etc. she's like if your not happy with part of your pie, it's not the end of the world as long as most of the pie brings you joy. You can always make changes and your pie will be complete. What parts of the pie really matter to me?
I'm not healthy, so I'm going to focus on eating better, getting out for fresh air and exercise and start there. I know that will change my mind frame and will be good for my heart. I've considered joining a class or walking group to meet new people. My favorite hobby is reading so I fill my time with great books. Keeping busy enough so I don't think too much. Does this make sense?
I have to learn confidence and be happy in my body now, even if I don't like it. Otherwise people will sense my bad energy and that's the opposite of what I want. I can change my body, but I need to love it first and accept it. In case it never does change

I love your friends pie analogy. Cool.

I know, I love it

Aw Shan - I know you had been trying to come to this decision for a while, I didnt know you finally made that leap.
I'm sorry it had to get to that point at all, but I'm very glad you are taking care of you first - and doing what you believe will be best for YOU in the long run. It takes a lot of courage to actually take that step and I know it can be scary.
Congratulations of the first few steps of a new, exiting journey.
Good luck!!

Exciting*
Though, I suppose exiting isnt exactly wrong, haha

Haha true shine! And thank you. I only just made the decision and posted about it on the breakups and divorce forum. It's tough and my mind is reeling that's for sure. It will be okay I know :)

That is very wise of you!

Congrats to you on your decision. Taking that step is the hardest part. I know I've done it several times. I think its great you are focused on you. That's the right way to go. I always focused on them & how they would feel, that's a tough row to hoe. (& the wrong way). Best of luck.