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The guy that was supposed to be my "best friend" has really done a number on me. We worked together until the end of June then he left to work somewhere else. We were thisclose when he was here. It was ALL about "us". He left and started getting distant, even after he said "nothing betwen us would change". Found out over a week ago that he had been seeing his ex-wife again. She destroyed hi the first time- she cheated on him, lied contantly, stole money from the bank she was working at, ran up credit cards and hid the bills., a total nut job. they have 2 children together.
He finally told me that he wanted to see where their relationship could go since they were getting along so well. SERIOUSLY????
once a cheat and a liar, always a cheat and a liar. She was cheating on her last fiance...WITH my friend.
She told me a month ago that she wanted another baby and that HE was not allowed to get anyone pregnant but her. WTF?!?!?! I know thats all that she wants from him. She cut him down and said that she got what she wanted from him (the kids), that he couldnt sexually satisfy her and that making love to him repulsed her. BUT when she asked me to be honest and tell her if him and i had sex, i told her the truth, YES. She called me a liar and said that he said that "She made advances towards me a long time ago and i shut her down". REALLY? I dont recall him shutting me down. Especially 2 Thursdays ago...we had a 3 hr conversation in which he failed to tell me he wanted her back...did he forget while he was unzipping his zipper??? SMH
I know time is the only thing that will heal but i feel so betrayed. How could he have done this to me? I was loyal, had his back, made him feel as special as he made me. Ive never had anyone make me smile from the inside out. And sex with him was phenomenal- he was so patient and kind with me- always made sure that i was happy the entire experience. I fell in love with him and end up getting kicked in the face.
Why do i feel like the karma bus is running over me instead of them?
He finally told me that he wanted to see where their relationship could go since they were getting along so well. SERIOUSLY????
once a cheat and a liar, always a cheat and a liar. She was cheating on her last fiance...WITH my friend.
She told me a month ago that she wanted another baby and that HE was not allowed to get anyone pregnant but her. WTF?!?!?! I know thats all that she wants from him. She cut him down and said that she got what she wanted from him (the kids), that he couldnt sexually satisfy her and that making love to him repulsed her. BUT when she asked me to be honest and tell her if him and i had sex, i told her the truth, YES. She called me a liar and said that he said that "She made advances towards me a long time ago and i shut her down". REALLY? I dont recall him shutting me down. Especially 2 Thursdays ago...we had a 3 hr conversation in which he failed to tell me he wanted her back...did he forget while he was unzipping his zipper??? SMH
I know time is the only thing that will heal but i feel so betrayed. How could he have done this to me? I was loyal, had his back, made him feel as special as he made me. Ive never had anyone make me smile from the inside out. And sex with him was phenomenal- he was so patient and kind with me- always made sure that i was happy the entire experience. I fell in love with him and end up getting kicked in the face.
Why do i feel like the karma bus is running over me instead of them?
You dont want that in your life - youre better off without that sort of trash. He did you a MAJOR favor.
Get yourself tested for STD's and ditch this loser for good.
I agree with Shine 14 (for the second tine today, lol) the whole thing has become a big ball of drama, none of which really needs to be yours, unless you choose to get involved with it. I gaureentee you that you will be much happier if you just back away, become "switzerland" and let them sort it all out. Possibly later, once this guy has come to his senses, and you are not ever sleeping with him again, you guys could rebuild your friendship, but for right now, I think if you try to maintain what you're doing one or the other of you is going to get irreperably hurt.
...and just fyi.. I do condone FWB relationships, but the trick is that it has to be with someone you kninda just enjoy haning out with. It can never be someone you have any emotional attachment to, cuz that's just asking for trouble.
You may want to take a lesson from what you see in his life and learn from it yourself. I'm sorry he hurt you, but apparently he was never totally on board with you, and you are now free to heal and move on to find someone more worthy of your devotion. (hug) Based on the maturity and strength of your love, it appears you're ready to meet someone you can spend your life with now :O) Go find him...