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Ontime2019
Ontime2019

I felt like I enjoyed my time during Thanksgiving with family. I often have felt uneasy in the past because I don’t see the family members often and feel shy and uncomfortable in informal, unstructured gatherings.  But I do love all people and have been asking the Lord to help me to get over this type of anxiety.  I do have awkwardness at times in my conversation, but I just try to push through it so that I can feel better and enjoy others.  My example is Jesus, who went to parties.  He was completely at peace and able to enjoy others without experiencing awkwardness or social anxiety.  And since I am a Christian and that means Christ Like, through the Holy Spirit I am able to have this same experience.

arfie
arfie
I'm not A Christian, but it seems to me even Jesus found those simple interactions challenging on more than one occasion. The Pharisees are still gossiping about his rude and crude social manners.

Be patient with yourself and the folks in your life, OT. When I feel awkward, that is usually true on the other end of the interaction, as well. Shifting the focus to helping the other person feel less awkward often helps me feel less awkward in the process.
Yard_Eggs
Yard_Eggs
I am Christian, and I find your post very refreshing and a beautiful interpretation of Christ's life.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Philippians 4:13
Janesinpain
Janesinpain
Hey, you're me in a different body.
I've suffered with it my whole life as phycological problems were tabu back then.
I've started to get help last year, but still haven't concorded the physical problems that I didn't have when I was young.
Medication will help, but you just keep fighting & I know you will win, good luck
Ontime2019
Ontime2019
Thanks everyone for these comments. They feel therapeutic to me. I had some problems on the latter part of the weekend that are causing me pain. Sometimes things that are out of the routine are so challenging.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I think a lot of people suffer from social anxiety including me.... Good for you for going and giving it your best shot..... That says a lot..... Big hug.....xo
Ontime2019
Ontime2019
Thanks! I think it is time for me to meet with a therapist again for a little while. There are some situations where I don’t feel like I am coming up with adequate answers.
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