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So now I am starting to wonder about my new man. My one friend seems to think that he is keeping me at arms length.
He found out last week that he is going to Savannah for 2 days for one of his talks and he was all excited about having some time to site see while there. He did not ask me if I wanted to go.
We were talking and he told me that for Thanksgiving he goes to a friend of his in another state but that maybe this year he would have a reason not to go (I guess he meant me, but my GF says that because he said "maybe" that he is still keeping things casual and at arms length).
The 46th anniversary of the fatal crash that took his mothers life and almost took his is coming up on the 19th and he posted on fb about it and how his emotions will be all over the place......but he never told this to me. So my friend seems to think he is just wanting something very casual yet committed and that he will be a failure to launch guy. I am pretty bummed about it.
He and I did have the talk about getting off the dating site and only seeing each other, so to me that means serious, but perhaps to him it does not?
I kind of don't want to ask him either because I don't want to come off as "needy" and especially how he posted about how this week will be hard for him I sure don't want to add to that.
But at the same time I am wondering what he wants or what he is looking for.
I need to stop listening to others so much. Ha!
I'm not sure how long you've been dating him but.....
I think it's perfectly normal not to go on business trips with your SO. I do know of couples that do.....but I know many many many more that don't. Me and my SO being one. Depending on the itenerary and personal objectives, frankly for me, having someone else there would be a distraction.
Again, unless you've been dating seriously for quite a few months (but I'm guessing not since you both have dating profiles still up), I think it's perfectly normal not to nail down plans for a holiday that is over two months away.
Also if he and his mother were in a car crash together and she died, no matter how long ago- that is huge- anniversaries like that, especially one that you lose your mother in, can trigger all types of emotions. It would be and should be something very very deeply personal. I have a traumatic anniversary every year and I feel the stress for a few months leading up to it and it goes away after the actual anniversary date.
Take a deep breathe and enjoy the journey. Without focus on the destination. It's with this time that you learn if he's 'the one'.
I agree I think she was over analyzing that got me to over analyzing.
I will try to just be a support to him as he gets thru this week.
Thanks!