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I am married (I have two kids) few months ago and my mother in law and my husband ex (of 10 years and have a kid together) is very close to her. My husband tell his mom everything and she shares with his ex who’s our neighbor and she comes asking questions about it or try to discuss it like she’s being friendly and she later changes the story about what I said, and she’ll say add things like he’s a bad guy and cheated and tells me to be careful with him etc... I try to explain to my husband but he says I complain about stupid things, I know there’s nothing between them but they text a lot, and she shows up to our house, they talk in the drive way for long, joke. at his parents they have photos of hers but not of me and him although we are married(they have pictures of my boys though). My mother in law is nice to me but the gossiping with her ex daughter in law is too much and each time I have an argument with my husband she suggest him to start divorce procedures and each time we are together my mother in law at least once talk about the ex, and now at family dinners she’s always there and they talk about things I have no idea of, it’s so uncomfortable . Am I really complaining about stupid things ? Everyone says am overreacting about complaining, am I really? Please advice am confused
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Which explains the mysterious fevers and my extra fatigue. I'm so glad I pushed for answers.
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Due to my increased paranoia, anxiety, and a panic attack over the weekend, my psychiatrist has put me back in a full dose of Zyprexa until further notice. Every time I think I'm getting ahead something happens and it's back to square one. I knew he was gonna do this but I can't help feeling disappointed. It is what it is.
I don't think you are overreacting at all. These people have no sense of boundaries and they are all up in your business and making up hurtful gossip just to amuse themselves. What goes on inside your marriage is none of their business. I would stop chatting with his ex, immediately. If she approaches, just wave and go into the house. I'd also look into a marriage counselor if your husband doesn't see that his level of sharing with his mother is inappropriate.
Do you have friends where you live now? It sounds like you don't have a lot of support from your husband and his family.
I think it's great if everyone can get along for the sake of the children and I understand parents living in fairly close proximity for the children's sake however their marriage is over and I do think there should also be some boundaries
I was very close to me ex sister in law so I understand years of friendship can't suddenly be dismissed..... They should not be discussing personal things about your marriage though..... Your husband needs to man up IMHO
You are not overreacting because this is not good. Your marriage is the important factor here your husband is out of order discussing your marital problems with his mother. He know she is telling the Ex and clearly there is some kind of deceit happening here. Marriage counseling is a suggestion or finding a way to get your husband to understand that his marriage is with you, not with his mother. How much sacrificing is you husband will to do to save this marriage?
a man doesn't gossip/vent/bitch about his wife PERIOD
nor does a woman gossip/vent/bitch ...
if either has something gossip/vent/bitch about, they should tell the other
there are few men & women and the odds of two of them pairing up are slim that is why the world is so fucked up
what kind of mother raises a pussy son to come to her and whine about his wife?
I am sorry but you have a quite challenge on your hands. Don't settle for living with it. If you do, you'll be unhappy and discontented. You seem like a genuine woman, try to find a way to spur the growth of your husband into a man or run for the hills now.