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amazinglyapril 09/29/2011

Don't you sometimes wish you could erase someone from your mind. Our minds are so powerful and thoughts are so crazy. Sometimes I wish I could just forget about someone and move on faster than time itself allows.

deleted_user 09/29/2011

Then we wouldn't learn.

Or find out how strong we can be.

And do it better next time.

*hugs*

deleted_user 09/30/2011

I don't wish that. Whatever experience we have with people who came into our life, whether good experiences or bad has molded us into who we are today.

koolman 10/01/2011

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind: Good film.

Another good one: The Unbearable Lightness of Being.

I think both of these movies address these issues-?

The mind is indeed a powerful machine, and we have to be careful about the "spots" we put into it! While all life's experiences, good and bad, do ingrain themselves in the mind, the key is not letting experience saturate, jade and taint the mind with a certain set of expectations based on that experience, and keep the mind open to new experiences, all the while using experience to learn from and grow.

amazinglyapril 10/01/2011

Thanks koolman... I like what you had to say. I agree that we need to learn and grown from our experiences - good and bad. I feel I have lived that way for most of my life. My tolerance for it and my resilience weakens as I am getting older. I was fighting that jaded feeling hence my original post. I was just finding some entertainment in my pain/heartache. I will have to check out that movie. Thanks again.

koolman 10/03/2011

It's OK. It's fun to mentally play with ourselves by writing in these forums and getting feedback.

And 31 is not old (!). Try 46 (me)! A few more aches and pains aside, I'm not old either. You're still very young. Keep the tenderness alive. Cheers!

deleted_user 10/04/2011

Yes there are times when I wish I could just erase some things, right now I have way too much going on in there and there isn't room for it all. I'd like to get rid the yuck and have more room for the good!

amazinglyapril 10/04/2011

Yeah, it would be great if we could take a shot of temporary amnesia and then decide to deal with things when we're ready and able? I don't know. I often wish for things like I'm a kid again - like time travel!! :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_O7PJbZm4U

I wanna go back to the day before I met ya.
Things would be better
If I could forget ya.
Somebody give me something strong so I can release ya.
A double shot of amnesia
Life could be sweeter (for me).

deleted_user 10/04/2011

I often wish I could be 4 again, 4 was my last really good year, life was good back then, and then they put me in school and well life has just been quite as good! :)

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