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koolman 11/14/2010

Trying to be more brave. Generally, the consensus is that I'd rather hurt than feel nothing at all. Anyone else, same?

"Oohh! It damn well hurts!"

"Certainly, it hurts!"

"Well, what's the trick then?"

"The trick, William Potter, is not MINDING that it hurts." -Peter O'Toole, Lawrence of Arabia

deleted_user 11/14/2010

Depends, some feel nothing for years, some emotional train rack for a few years. What which needs is up to them, they will tell, if you are ready to hear.

koolman 11/15/2010

It'd be nice to know that the pleasure/pain ratio is skewed more in the pleasure direction...

deleted_user 11/16/2010

Feeling nothing at all? a lack of vitality within soul and spirit. Or perhaps it is a break from the immensity of emotions that have washed through one's soul?

Sometimes it isn't so much the pain, but, how to manage the pain. Pain is energy. Pleasure is energy. How is the energy from the pain channeled my friend? Both can easily lead from one into the other.

koolman 11/16/2010

Thanks, whispering. Yeah, it might simply be mental exhaustion. Holidays are always kind of a rollercoaster. My brother got sick in October, died in January, so I always get "aftershocks" of intense feeling every holiday season now. But we've got some new little guys in the family, some warm infant souls. This is helping. I think I just want to sleep through these holidays.

deleted_user 11/16/2010

Hugs, hon. Gentle hugs for your soul. whisp

koolman 11/20/2010

Thanks, whisp. HONESTY about my feelings there just helped COURAGEOUSNESS about my feelings. I'm so tired lol...

ScarletAngel 11/21/2010

I can only answer that in the words of Mother Teresa of Calcutta. - "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love."

Aronia 11/21/2010

Sometimes feeling nothing can be benefitial...this is why they make SSRIs and benzos lol

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