Can you safely tell your S.O. that you are ready to end things? If so, maybe tell them and work together to come up with a plan of separating stuff and lives.

I can yea, I just don’t know how is best to bring it up without it turning into an argument and then it always end with us making up and then it repeats. It’s like I bottle it whenever I feel like I could actually end things if that makes sense

Oooh.... understandable. Maybe you could start the conversation something like this “I really care about you and I don’t want to fight with you. I just need to let you know I’m made the decision that I am ending this relationship. There isn’t anything to fix at this point in time I just want to work together to separate our stuff and living arrangements”

I read your other post about the things he wants you to do sexually with other men. If this is not something that you want to do, then you two are not ever going to be compatible for the long term. And, you are only 23.... you are young, and you don't have to stay in a relationship that you are not happy with. Have a talk with him, and tell him what you need FROM HIM to make YOU happy. Relationships are a two way street. If he knows you do not like doing these sexual things with other men, then he should never be forcing you to do them. Stand up for yourself. It is your body!

break ups are never easy, darling. But I am happy to see you finally putting yourself first! Unfortunately, your just going to have to say it like it is, its like ripping off that bandaid. I know it will be rough But keep in mind, You are doing it for you! sending lots of love and courage

Are you able to live somewhere else if you leave? I suggest just making sure you know where you are going and what not before you break up. It’s easier to do (less overwhelming) when you know you can just leave. Splitting up the stuff... don’t worry about that now.

If it helps to break up in public, do so. That way you can leave if he starts arguing. Write a script for yourself and practice it so you don’t get caught up in the emotions of it.
Quite honestly I would not preface anything with “I love you but,” or telling him what you need. You can say that at another time. If you worry about framing the break up conversation then it just gives him room to talk you out of it. It’s like a bandaid. You just might have to rip it off. He will kick and scream but that is about him, not you.

I agree that you just have to end it period..... I think you've been given some good advice

Ultimately it will be the best thing for both of you.... If you don't want to be there it's an injustice to you both and you'll both have a new start

I know that it's not easy however once it's done you can move on..... Big hug....xo

It is never easy to end a relationship, but if you have already accepted that it is over; then it is the only thing left to do. You seem to have already done some healing from the end of things, but your partner will not be able to until you tell them where you stand.