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iv been with my bf for about a year now. and i asked him if he wanted to spend a couple of nights at my house in a few weeks while my mums on holiday. she said it was fine, and i havent seen him for ages.
So when i bring it up, at first he tells me he'll try and get some time off. then he tells me hes used up all his holiday and doesnt want to comute to work by train if hes on an early shift! how pathetic! I terminated the phone call because its not the first time hes cancelled our time together.
we were supposed to have a week in september together and now we dont bcz he made a lame excuse 3 months later that 2 other ppl had booked it before him.
whats the problem?!
So when i bring it up, at first he tells me he'll try and get some time off. then he tells me hes used up all his holiday and doesnt want to comute to work by train if hes on an early shift! how pathetic! I terminated the phone call because its not the first time hes cancelled our time together.
we were supposed to have a week in september together and now we dont bcz he made a lame excuse 3 months later that 2 other ppl had booked it before him.
whats the problem?!
Why are you still with this guy?
The important thing is that you set up your boundaries and a reasonable amount of time to see if he will change. I am not sure how long you have been waiting for him to change but don't fall into any type of hole waiting for him to change otherwise you are going to grey hair if you get my drift. In any aspect it sounds like you are hoping he will change so much that it might be causing you to keep waiting and that isn't healthy for you or him. So remember set up those boundaries and stick to them and don't let yourself continue to be unhappy life is just way too short. Wishing you the very best:)