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m.1008
m.1008

Hi! So my boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while and we know everything about each other. Head always been there for me and helped me with my panic stacks and anxiety, but nowadays we argue a lot on small things. How should we solve it? Am I just over thinking? I really don't want to take a break or break up with him because he's my courage SOMEONE HELP

koolman
koolman
What are you arguing about? If small things, maybe try not to be critical, ease up, go with the flow more.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Hi and Welcome m1.... You've written that 'he' helps you with your panic and anxiety' and 'he's your courage'
That's a lot to put on someone else m1.... Are you seeing a doctor for this extreme anxiety?....Having a partner as a caregiver really changes the role of a significant other and can lead to a lot of problems...
I don't know what you're arguing about however this alone might be a lot of pressure

Extreme anxiety is so hard to deal with ... I get that.... I used to have panic attacks and they're awful...

We have a really good and active Anxiety Board on here that might be a good support for you.... Big hug.....xo
lostsoul72
lostsoul72
I agree with SunCloud being a caregiver to someone with you type of issues ( I am not judging as I have them too along with depression). He can be there to support and help you, but don't rely on him all the time as it takes a lot of energy and commitment from someone that dose that and then there is less energy to devote to a relationship. I lived this life for 18 year with my Ex-wife and honestly if it was not for the abuse I would not have left her. It did however damage our relationship and made us a lot less receptive to each other needs, wants, and desires.

Best of luck!
Aronia
Aronia
I also have to send that...
he needs a break from being the rock.
Hope you can mend your relationship!
Hugs
rmb
rmb
Can I ask how old you both are? Sometimes when we spend too much time with our partners or are needing more and more and they start pulling away, it causes tension. Partners support each other but we have to also be strong on our own. Are you seeing someone to help you address your anxiety?
radhika
radhika
there is a limit to how much a person can tolerate or with stand. so try not to drive away your partner by pressurizing him too much. you need to check with doctor about your anxiety issues.
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