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DamselinDistress-Nichole
DamselinDistress-Nichole

 I met this guy few months ago from a chatting site. We started talking and get along through these past months. When we developed our friendship, we realized we like each other already. We are in a long distance relationship now but i dont know what to do, he's so busy with his work and business that we talk twice or once in two weeks. His schedule are not constant and due to time zones i have to have sleepless nights just to wait for him or even at times i have to wait for weeks before he message me. He will come and visit me this Christmas but still Iam not 100% believing he will come and see me. I tried talking to him and telling him that if we want to make this relationship work we have to maketimefor each other and he said he willdo his best to have time. He said he wanted to have time nad spend time with me always but his work is so hectic and crazy in terms of schedule. He very seldom talks to me. I dont know when we will talk again,i just always wait and wait and I feel so unimportant with that. Awhile ago we talk and a lot of people calling him from work , He said wait because of phone call but he didint came back already and called up :( His battery is low by then. I dont know if he is really serious with me :( Can someone help me? I dont know what to do. Help me. It makes me more depress.

Gutted
Gutted
How old is he? He sounds like a married guy playing around. We all make time for what is important to us. Don't let yourself sit around daydreaming up a relationship that isn't really there. Some guys are selfish and they'll say anything. Even if a guys batter is low, he can shoot a short text or post something of social media.
DieingInside
DieingInside
I agree with Gutted. Sounds like he's either married or in a commited relationship already.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
This makes me think of the show Catfish...... There's something not right about what's going on

I would let him know that things are not going to continue like this or I'd be done..... Big hug..... Move on to someone who's available

The reason cat fishing works so well is that our minds fill in the blanks with the perfection that is written in fairy tales.....,,, xi
DamselinDistress-Nichole
DamselinDistress-Nichole
@Gutted He is only 26 years old and from Greece Thank you! I'am just going with the flow. Well, he plans to visit me and celebrate with me this Christmas. He said few days ago when the last time we talked that he bought an open ticket for this week trip going here in the Philippines. He was from Greece by the way. I also told him that I will not have sex with him as I have this vow to save my virginity until marriage meaning I will only make love with my husband in the future. He said he is okay with that and respect my decision. He said to me as much as possible he wants to spend time with me and talk to me all day but his work is giving him few time. I feel so confused about his true intention and sincerity. I even ask him many times if he loves me and if he is serious and he said yes.
DamselinDistress-Nichole
DamselinDistress-Nichole
@DieingInside Yes I agree :( I feel so sad and unimportant most of the time. Maybe i should just go and leave him,...I think he is just playing around with me.
Scottyk
Scottyk
If you are not in his age bracket, bye bye. don't be desperate to hook up with a nobody!!!
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