Hello all--

My boyfriend and I have been dating 10 months. In those 10 months I have never established a level of comfort in which I felt comfortable contacting him first or bearing my true feelings- I always felt as if I was being too emotional and therefore too clingy. I always wanted an open relationship, and especially as we've grown more serious I've come to expect that he will be more communicative and open with me. After all what's the point in dating for so long? He really hasn't. Some days he tells me how in love with me he is, while other days he is quiet, distant, and doesn't say much unless it's about himself. When I ask him questions or bring up things, he doesn't seem connected to me or interested in what I have to say and often shrugs them off. He works outside of DC in a suburb of VA, but lives in DC with his friends (I live down the street). He recently just got a job in the city, and told me yesterday. I was so happy for him, and he was boasting about his big pay raise and the great location. I actually work not too far by, and I'm attending nursing school. In the past he's belittled the fact that I have a part time job and am only in school, and I don't work as hard of him. I am in love with my boyfriend but feel as though I am constantly brushed off and rarely seen or heard-- it can be select days when he is interested in me. So, when he got this job yesterday, I immediately internally freaked out that once he starts it he will look at me as nothing special, and a weight on his new fast life working in the big city (there are also multiple attractive girls our age who work at his new company). I'm worried that he's going to be so smitten with working in the city (which he has never done before) and going to bars after work and meeting people in his new office, and combined with his already established HUGE sense of ego, he will look at me like a little piece of dust and think to himself that he can do much better than me now that he's made it big. I just assume these anxieties given our history, and the fact that he can be very selfish and only think of himself. Sometimes I don't think he's capable of continuing a lasting relationship with me, and he would be willing to throw me out in a second if he hit success and something better came along, or if he felt that he could get a better more successful and attractive girl with his new image as a big shot at his job. My friends ALL date successful guys, who seem humble and love them just as much as they love their job. Their boyfriends find balance and also work hard, but they don't become arrogant with their new career and automatically look at their significant others as less than them and old news. I was told that this is an opportunity to connect us and our future, or either distance us. My biggest fear is that he will slowly taper off from me and not have the courage to discuss a proper break up in person-- that he will become so infatuated with his new job and image that he will forget about me and not want to deal with me anymore. Again, these are all anxieties given our past and his history of behaving arrogantly and selfishly. I occassionally entertain the thought that this new job will open him up to a more responsible, mature commitment to me as his girlfriend. For the record, we are both 25. Thank you all for your comments in advance.