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Gelrdev 03/19/2023

I thought it was ok for me to communicate with the partner and friends were encouraging me to do so, and I realized that I don't have to and the partner can do it. How can I allow it? Meditation has helped me and I can tell my improvement. It's not find a replacement... thank you.

hasty_05 03/20/2023

I am sorry this doesn't make sense to me. Could you explain what you were trying to communicate with your partner about? How can you allow what? But it sounds like you found a way for yourself and meditation has helped you. That is great.

SunCloudJD 03/20/2023

I was trying to understand just what you were writing as well... Could you explain it a little more?... xo

Gelrdev 03/20/2023

I'm working with my mind to get rid of the thoughts that were making me feel to do it. I'm trying to get new friends so my energy is very peaceful and helping my friends make me feel valuable and spirituality certainly.

Thank you for your input. Wish you the best for you too.

Gelrdev 03/20/2023

It's about redundancy in communication. @SunCloudJD

Gelrdev 03/20/2023

@SunCloudJD
it's about not allowing the partner or a person to answer, to take the initiative to communicate.

Thank you for asking (⁠ ⁠◜⁠‿⁠◝⁠ ⁠)⁠♡

SunCloudJD 03/20/2023

I see.... If it's about someone speaking for you.... I would just speak up and answer for myself or let them finish what they have to say and add what you want to say

They should get the drift pretty soon that you'll answer for yourself.... Big hug... xo

Gelrdev 03/21/2023

Thank you, that is what exactly I am doing instead of speaking ten words. I speak seven and I am allowing them to talk or I stay quiet and trust in God and it is working.

hasty_05 03/21/2023

Yes, it’s good to talk less and listen more. Interrupting people also isn’t good. Wise words, Gelrdev. .

Gelrdev 03/22/2023

A Guru told me that I have to love unconditionally my husband regardless what he says or does because love changes.

rmb 03/22/2023

I say love yourself unconditionally first.

fffFFF 05/29/2023

You need to communicate your needs; although the article refers infertility, you might want to follow the same way to communicate when you are and aren't happy. Enjoy: https://iyoni.app/needs-communication/

Goldielocks5 06/11/2023

I would saynif you cant express yourself around this person or people, theybgive you great anxiety. Like those that control and manipulate the situation. You have to be firm and direct with them. And if thwy dont care, then walk. There is many curbs for them.

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