The easiest way to maintain a healthy marriage relationship is to make sure you are on the same team (no pun intended). Do you have the same goals financially? Can you work together to meet your goals? Can you talk to each other?

You have to understand that the good times ebb and flow. The strength of a marriage is not how good the good times are but rather how the two of you weather the hard times. Just remember daily why you love your partner, let him know that you love him, understand each others struggles, always acknowledge that you are on the same team, win or lose.

Finish college and start earning money. Money is the only thing that will alleviate this stress, that or moving to more meager living accomodations, to reduce expenses. Use birth control religiously. If you think money is tight right now, it'll be nonexistent and debt will pile up astronomically when you two bring another human being into this world.

Hold onto what you have. He sounds like a hard worker, Just discuss how you can together spend your finances. Its good to be married, i am not but i know its a good thing to have when it works. Hang on because the stressful start to marriage and lifestyle will get better. Hang on.

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Plan it out talk it out
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Believe in each other who ever is the better financial person share that knowledge with the other.
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This is all great advice! We are on the same page about finances and have both had to compromise and give up a few things. We communicate well (or I feel like we do). I am typically the one who handles bills and things, but we never make a financial decision without talking to one another first. We both know how we want to be successful, it's just basically impossible right now until I finish school!

NewlyWed,

Sounds like you are doing things right. A true sign of emotional maturity is being able to forego instant gratification for long term goals. Keep up the good work.

Are you working? If not, pick up some kind of part time work to help with the financial stress. A holiday job in retail might be helpful to the budget or driving uber or uber eats, or babysitting, or tutoring kids, etc. If you are not currently working, this may give you an excess of energy and his long hours gives him a deficit of energy. Before you two were married, how did you individually support. yourselves? How often did you two see each other or have date nights? I would suggest you sit down with him and talk about the importance of having a date night or date day once a week. Going on a walk, visiting a museum if they are open in your area, a picnic in a park, etc. I live in a big city, sometimes we ride public transportation downtown and find a pizza place to eat lunch as our date. Doesn't have to cost a lot of money or any money. But set a day and time that is "set in stone." This helps build the friendship and communication.

I am impressed. It is exciting for me to know that there are young people who are seeking advice and willing to listen and try to make their marriage better. You are a precious jewel. I wish I could say that at your stage of the marriage we were as on target as you but we were not and had many painful moments because of it. We have managed to make it for 57 years on an up-and-down road. We have learned lots of lessons along the way. The one thing I wish I had read (it wasn’t even published then) was the book Ready to Wed. We could have saved ourselves a lot of heartache.

Probably the best wedding present we rec’d was a set of handmade wooden trays. They have a note on the back. Never go to bed on an argument. When the rough times come, wife cook a nice meal and serve it with love. Talking, sharing and breaking bread together are soooo important. We always sit down and eat together-especially after we had five children. We had many a person to come eat with us simply because we sat down at our round table. We ate (often simple food) and shared conversation afterward till everyone was full of food and good fellowship.

I pray the richest of God’s blessings upon your marriage. You are on the right track. God bless you and your husband as you share this journey.

Life can get really busy so it's important to be intentional. Focus on what you CAN do. Maybe you don't have as much time to be together right now but maybe there are some little things you could do for each other. Have you ever taken the love languages test? You can google it, if not. It would give you ideas of things you could do to make the other person feel loved.

I'm not married anymore but when I was, we used to do this thing called "Shmily." It stood for "See how much I love you." We would take turns hiding a "shmily" around the house or various places. It could be things like leaving a little piece of paper that says "shmily" on it in his car or football bag to find when he's out. Or write it on the mirror when it's all steamed up after a shower for him to find the next time the bathroom is steamy.

You could send random texts throughout the day just to say, "thinking about you." Or rub his feet when he gets home from a long day. You could also get a bunch of pieces of paper and each write things on them that would make you feel loved. Then fold them up and put them in a mason jar (one for each of you). Then each morning you would draw out a piece of paper and do whatever it said on there (written by the other person).

Those are just a few ideas. :-)