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I have been with my girlfriend for over 6 years last night we decided to split up. We are trying to leave on good terms, we both love each other a lot but have different needs. We have been living together for almost as long as we have been together. Our leases runs up at the end of April and then we are going to live separately. Our romantic relationship hadn't been healthy in a long time, but I have always thought we could still be great friends. Most of what we love about each other can be shared as friends. We talked about it and are going to try to stay close.
However, I am so worried it won't work out that way though. The thought of not having her in my life is killing me. I know we have tried everything, but I feel like I can't handle this. Everything I see in our apartment reminds me of the time we spent together, and it just makes me think that those times are gone:(
She is my sidekick and my best friend, but it has been a long time since we connected romantically. I can't truely express how sad I am right now.
However, I am so worried it won't work out that way though. The thought of not having her in my life is killing me. I know we have tried everything, but I feel like I can't handle this. Everything I see in our apartment reminds me of the time we spent together, and it just makes me think that those times are gone:(
She is my sidekick and my best friend, but it has been a long time since we connected romantically. I can't truely express how sad I am right now.
The first few weeks or even months of a breakup will always be tough, especially given the time that the two of you has spent together. I feel like that time frame is also an acceptable time to wallow in grief and sadness. However, you need to move on at some point. When that time does come, you need to weigh the pros and the cons. What are the aspects of the relationship that you considered unhealthy? Ponder upon those aspects instead of your good memories.
There's a reason why the relationship had to end.
THOSE times are gone, but it doesn't mean GOOD times are gone! Make some male buddies and christen your apartment with some chips and beer, watch sports or some comedy movies, fart proudly and obnoxiously as a contest without having to worry about offending a woman. Laugh your ass off!